Most of them were treated like crap behind the scenes. You would never know it at the Kingdumb Hell, but most of the husbands were like tyrants.
I remember in particular the humanoid that dragged me into the cancer. He already lost one wife because she got tired of his tyranny, and he wondered why she was not totally submissive (as if the wife couldn't think). He did that with a second wife while I was in, and that one also ended after about 4 years (more backtalk about her not being submissive). Insisting that she is going to regular pioneer if it kills her is typical.
The ones that were not like that were branded as wimps that could not effectively take the lead.