I am just a young teenager, and my first ever boyfriend is a JW!! At that time i didn't even know what a JW was, no one at school ever really mentioned anything. I had no idea what i was getting into. Since that time my mom and I have been doing some research about... well... what he is supposed to be believing in. The more I read, the freakier it seems.
This boy is sweet, kind, smart, cute, and just all around a great guy. He is very good and loyal to me, and I trust him completly.
I am perfectly happy with him for right now, as this is just a junior high relationship... but.. I know I could never or would never marry someone who is a JW. Neither of us are allowed to go on dates, so that isn't a big problem. It, just that his parents object to me so strongly. It's hard to communicate when he is not even allowed to talk on the phone with me.... coincidence that EVERY time he calls his parents "have to use the phone"... I THINK NOT!
Right now I am just trying to understand it all as best I can, and figure out how things work in "his life".
My boyfriend is a JW
by little_red_birdie 31 Replies latest jw friends
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little_red_birdie
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Stephanus
Hi LRB,
An interesting dilemma! As you say, it's a teenage romance, so there's not much scope for it going anywhere, especially with Dub Dad and Mum keeping such a tight leash on your boyfriend. I'd look into why you like him. If you couldn't marry a Dub, then why do you feel safe with one as a boyfriend? If he decides he likes you enough to have you around on a long term basis, he'll be trying to proselytise you into his religion; as you probably already know, anyone not in the Dubs is considered by them to be "bad associaton". You might be better off getting out while the getting's good. After all, things don't sound too intimate at the mo, so I can't see that you're giving up much. Of course, that's your call!
"You've got the brain of a four-year-old boy, and I'll bet he was glad to get rid of it."
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willy_think
little_red_birdie hi,
i'm sure your frend is a great kid but he is involved in a very dangerous cult. at your age in life it might be best for you to move on to boyfriend nuber two and leave the WT and your boyfriend behind you. i wish i could say somthing else. somthing like it'll be OK just geve it time, or you can help him. but i can't, you are in a difficult position for adults to handle, for a young person entering there teen years it is too much. i'm sorry and wish you and yours well.
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refiners fire
i disagree.if you like him go out with him. youre doing him a favour, showing him what the REAL world is like.Educate him.
Just dont get sucked into starting to go to church with him.Believe me, you dont want any part of that church. -
Mulan
Welcome to our message board, little bird. Keep coming here and chatting with us. We will be able to help you, I am sure. Don't abandon him. He needs someone like you to help him to see that "worldly people" (that's what they call non witnesses) are not demonic, sprouting horns, but are sweet, kind and nice, like you are.
Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)
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lauralisa
hmmmmmm......
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funkyderek
hmmmmmm......
Just what I was thinking...
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Those who can induce you to believe absurdities can induce you to commit attrocities - Voltaire -
DazedAndConfused
hmmmmm.........is right. Seems that the vocabulary is that of a much older person...........hmmm...
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COMF
Hmmmmm.
COMF
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ashitaka
Lordy lordy...good luck.
