have any of you actually seen first hand the abuses of Islam you speak of
Anyone who has seen a woman in a burqa or wearing a hijab has.
But since you asked, I have tried to work with women who have been brought to North America, whose only language is Arabic, and whose husbands do not permit them to learn the local language. If these women could understand English, they might see that there are other options than to stay with a man who speaks to them in Arabic only and says things to her that make her weep bitterly.
Oh, and there is the time when a Muslim man, dressed in his cultural garb, saw me walking down the street with my children and called me a whore because I had the nerve to be wearing a dress that showed my arms and legs, and because I wasn't wearing a head covering. I have to wonder if he came over here from whatever repressive $h!thole he couldn't wait to leave, thrilled to be in a free society because it gives him a politically correct license to practice his misogyny and live off the taxes I pay while doing it.