by mtsgrad 23 Replies latest jw friends
Been in the troof for 30yrs, pionered for 15yrs, became servant and did MTS and had loadsa friends. Faded and now no witness will talk to me. Tell me why?
Cheers
mtsgrad
I will go with a 2/3 combo.
Jackie
Thx Jackie
Most of us here can really relate to what you're saying.
You can try to figure out the reasons but you probably already know. I'll bet you weren't a bad friend and that your friends aren't bad people. They are merely doing what they are being told is the right thing to do and don't yet have the ability to think for themselves about whether what they are doing is good or bad.
Regardless of why, it is what it is and you probably won't have a great deal of success in changing them. So move on and find ways of making new friends. Go to a night class or join some hobby group that interests you. Do you have kids? Or pets even? They can be a good way of meeting people and perhaps forging a friendship or two.
We've met up with and befriended a few people from this list and that was a big help during a period of time when it was easy to feel quite lonely.
Keep us posted!
Am
Welcome to my club!
I just think this way now: I used to have a family of 6 million members.
Now I have one of almost 7 billion! Welcome to the human race! :)
TTRP
When I was shunned by Witness group members, I asked a few why, and they said: "We really didn't like you when you were a Witness.".
I guess that'd explain it.
Garybuss
I hope you are joking. It appears no.1 applies to me then!
I am going with 2 & 3 .
The very sad thing is when the high mind control wts turns families in on themselves. I had a long conversation with former JW last night whose mum is being put in the m most invidious of positions with regards to her and his family.
Going on from that why not to go to the ex jw meetup in three weeks in London ? Meet some new people
David
Faders have their heads in the always-very-soon-to-be-dropped Armageddon guillotine according the WTS. It's all about group survival in JW-land, and those who fall behind the pack quickly become persona non grata.
((((mtsgrad))))
It stinks doesn't it !
I have reached out to people I work with and have made friends that way . I encouraged my husband to pursue his hobbies so he could make new friends too . It is not the same though . I miss the shared history that I had with those we associated with for over thirty yrs. There are times that I also wonder maybe I just wasn't a likable person . That kind of thinking is not constructive so i just look for ways to fill in the gaps and move forward .
The religion has a big thing to do with losing your friends . They are taught something HAS to be wrong with those that leave the organization ,bad association and all that nonsense . They are a people taught not to think for themselves and unfortunatly a society ruled by gossip . I am sure there are some tall tales being told about my family and NO ONE will ever think to just call and ask if any of it is factual .
My witness sister in law still talks to us (at least whenever we make the initiative to call them ) and she told me UNTIL there is an announcement made at the hall she would continue . So what does that mean ...???? All the sudden because a group of men decide for her that her relatives are officially no longer JW's she will let them tell her if she should continue talking to us or not ? And she already knows I do not consider myself a witness and that it is not the "truth" anymore .
I have found comfort here at JWD and am looking on meetup.com to try to find others more local that can relate to ex-jw life .Don't give up and try not to dwell on the past MAKE your own future .
Hugs
