Now that I am opening my eyes more and more, I am starting to realize that JW's don't see the need to take responsibility for anything.
Like in the WT for this week, if a JW marriage fails, they can say it was because they didnt pray enough, or preach together enough.
If an elder gives counsel about anything, then if it seems to work for the person, then he accepts the praise or says it came from Jehovah.
But if things don't work out, then the elder will blame the person for not following the counsel right. Or he will tell them to wait on Jehovah.
Or if there is a wrong teaching, it is never really wrong, it is only the light getting brighter.
It doesnt really matter what happens in a persons life, it is never the fault of JW's or teachings or decisions. They will say that Jehovah is allowing this test, or that the person didnt follow the counsel, or that Jehovah is doing things in a special way, or that we don't know yet why that happened, but we will.
For a person that has a comfortable life, and things going pretty well, and they never ask the elders for help, often they think that is Jehovah's blessing.
But if something big goes wrong, and the elders give bad advice, or they punish someone and call it "help" and they mess up a persons life, it completely doesnt matter to them.
They say that Jehovah will fix everything, so if we are upset now, or hurt now, that is our fault. We need to wait on Jehovah. The child molestation issues, the blood issues, family break-ups, depression, lack of skills to find good work, its never ever, the fault of the organizationn
How many people I have read on this forum that are suffering because of some policy or decision.
And all of it is thrown back in their face.
BF