lots of anger here.....we gotta let it go guys!........

oompa

at least i gotta let it go...it is the only chance to save my marriage. Have you ever noticed how so many poster here mostly have bitter/angry comments? Of course we all have good reasons for that, but part of my goinsolo marriage counseling is to just breath deep and start letting go of my anger and frustration....esp related to my desire and efforts at waking up family and friends. many here have taken the laid back, wait five years approach and SOMETHING finally wakes their mate up....and in the meantime....i am hoping there will be more peace (and sex) in my marriage!........wish me luck all......and good luck to you too.......oompa

i love cussin and and saying GOOD LUCK now.....

SPAZnik

everywhere you go, there you are.

SPAZnik

and all the best to ya!

SPAZnik

i mean, good luck!!

Quirky1

Did your wife find your stash of Playboy's??

AudeSapere

many here have taken the laid back, wait five years approach and SOMETHING finally wakes their mate up....

I'm not convinced that the successful ones just sit back and wait. I think they focus on other, more-interesting aspects of their lives and find new and fun things to do with spouses and family. The just set the religious/jw stuff aside and allow the natural personality to flourish.

When the natural personality is sparked, the person is more likely to notice when it's being squelched. If you spend your life dominated, attacked, and down-trodden, you forget what real joy is like. You spend so much energy defending your position that it wears you out and you actively avoid the situations and people who instigate the attacks.

Don't force her/them into a position where they feel they have to put up their guards. Find the places and activities where everyone can just be. and be joyful. and carefree.

Even if she/they never come around and leave the org, at least you will all have good memories of loving times.

Just a thought and observation.

-Aude.

oompa

Aude: Even if she/they never come around and leave the org, at least you will all have good memories of loving times.

Aude...very very nice...and i mean your entire post. That is what i am after. My dear hardcore JW wife almost NEVER gives me any grief or urgings or guilt trips....she is way better at the winning over without a word, and i need to be more like that...............oompa

CHILD

What does she like to do? Think about the places you went an the activities you enjoyed together when you were courting. Be as romantic as a 16 year old. Surprise her with movie tickets or dinner at her favorite restaurant..

loosie

I understand where you are coming from. I hate what the jw's have done to me and my family. There is one elder in particular that I want to grab by the walmart necktie and get in his face and unleash all my anger at him until he pees his pants. but he is dead so I can't. So I have to settle for peeing on his grave if I knew where it was. (wow that feels better)

My therapist tells me to write letters (and not send them) to these people. I made the word documents on my computer and instead of saying Dear Bro. Smith. I gave him another name. Dear J** A** SOB C*** S*****

Well I had so much fun just addresses the letters I didn't need to actually write the letter...(YET)

no more kool aid

Oompa, my husband and I are having a hard time letting go of anger and we have each other at least. I can see how it would be very difficult with one close family member still in. Being a JW takes up so much of a loved ones life that it's like there is nothing left to talk about and not a lot of time left. That being said many of us, including myself need to let go of anger. Most of the time I am as happy as a clam, but do appreciate this forum to vent because no one else would understand the wacky life we have all lived. So just keep venting here and put your best face forward for your lovely wife.

lots of anger here.....we gotta let it go guys!........

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