Anger is a natural part of the recovery...but in time it should subside or at least you come to terms with what has transpired and you turn the anger into something more constructive.
The problem for some, like our buddy oompa, is that every day you're reminded of the JW bullshit by faithful, zealous family members who never let you forget that you're the one at fault and who has caused all the problems in a marriage or family relationship.
You know, we know and your counselor knows that they're wrong, but it doesn't take away the frustration and pain of knowing that even though you're right, no one in your immediate family seems to recognize it.
I understand to a degree as I have active family members who remind me of my "shortcomings". It gets better and there comes a point where you learn to drop the anger and even when someone pushes your buttons, you realize that it's futile to argue with them. They're cult victims...they're not thinking straight. You have to bide your time and drop hints and tidbits of knowledge from time to time and hope it sinks in to come up later.