Thought I'd properly introduce myself (page 3)

Mrs. Fiorini

Welcome! And Congratulations on getting out. I consider my decision to leave the WT one of the best things I ever did for myself. I hope you enjoy posting here and share your wisdom with the rest of us.

Cheetos

Welcome aboard dear, just let it all hang out.

Dagney

JWWA, "Welcome!" and thank you for sharing your story.

I too walked away; no fading here. I'm thinking it was the best thing I've ever done, and so glad I did it that way. I'm glad you have support and people around you.

I look forward to your posts.

Trying2understand

Congratulations on your new life!!! Now you can start to live without having to deal with all of the guilt. I wish you and your family many years of happiness..

jam

walking away, so happy for you....Just the other day my son said dad , when he and I walk away from the borg..over 20yrs ago, we had know idea where it would lead..I am happy to say it was the best move we made..His son my grandson is enjoying and living a normal childhood...We are all enjoying life a lot more...And may I say, when at times you feel low,(the shunning and ets) continue to check out others on this site and what they are going thru.It help me a lot knowing that you are not alone...

Open mind

You've brightened my day and the rest of your life.

Savor every moment.

SixofNine had some good advice, IMO.

The freedom gets even lighter as each subsequent mental shackle falls away.

om

JW Walking Away

If you don't mind my asking...where do you stand today theologically? Do you have any sort of religious affiliation?

Well I am a christian, perhaps more now than ever before. A few months after leaving the JWs I asked my husband is he would mind if I looked for a church to perhaps attend some services. My husband in fact pointed me in the direction. Gave me the name of a church in town that I call his family church, a majority of his relatives grew up in this church, although they no longer attend due to death and moving out of the area.
So I checked it out and was very happy with what I was greeted with. It's a Community Congregational church. The pastor has been very helpful,being available whenever I need to talk and answering my never ending questions. We have made some really good friends. My husband has even been able to reconnect with his past in a way. There are many people who were dear, close friends of his grandparents before they died.
It has been a very enjoyable experience, and the love we feel is genuine. So unlike anything I ever encountered at a KH.

JW Walking Away

Has the experience caused you to become an atheist? I'm sure you know that many ex-JWs are completely put off with the whole bible. Will you be celebrating Christmas this year? This is the first year since 1999 that I'm celebrating the holidays. It's wonderful! Tell us more about your situation.

No I'm not an atheist, not by a long shot. My belief and love for God is stronger and deeper now than ever before. It's very amazing. My one sister who was never a JW is an atheist simply because of the JWs. Our family's behavior totally turned her off. Fortunately my sister supports my spirituality and never puts me down or make me feel silly for believing in God, and visa-versa.

Oh yes we are celebrating Christmas. Just a few days ago we put up our very first Christmas tree and decorated the house. We've been celebrating all the holidays and the kids birthday's this year. The kids have been so happy and it has helped bring my husband any myself closer together.

Homerovah the Almighty

Welcome JWA to the forum !

Wonderful story you've told about your leaving the slavery of the WTBS. to find your newly found happiness. Everyone thats thinking about leaving

this high control cult should use your example as a template on how to leave the right way, thanks for sharing your experience and happy Holidays to

you and your family............Homey

Humanity won again

JW Walking Away

At the end of last year I had some experiences that led me to question if I was really in the right place. I can go into detail if anyone asks but for now I'll just leave it at that. I'm sure I'm not the only one whose curiosity was peaked; do tell!

Well my youngest sister was expecting her first child, the baby was due at the end of December. My sister lived across town from me and didn't have a car. So I was her ride to the hospital and also was going to be with her during the birth. So naturally December rolls around and she starts experiencing contractions. I kept telling her they were only braxton hicks but she wouldn't listen. So everytime she'd get them she'd call me and I would take her to the hospital. Naturaly in the evening and even the middle of the night.

Needless to say I was missing tons of meetings and not going out in field service. The elders were calling to find out why I was missing so many meetings. I explained the situation and I was told this was just Satan's why of distracting me and I should think of it as being spiritually raped. That did not sit well with me at all. I couldn't understand why they would tell me to basically abandon my sister in her time of need and why on earth I should think of missing meetings as being raped.

So I just ignored then because there was no way I was going to not take my sister to the hospital just so I could go to meeting. On the 26th of December I took my sister to the hospital and this time it was for real and my nephew was born on the 27th. Unfortunately my sister and the baby had a rough time. My nephew, although full term ended up in the NICU. My sister had her husband were so upset. I stayed with my sister everyday to be with her and to go with her when she would visit the baby.

My sister was discharged from the hospital but the baby had to stay for another week. It was awful leaving that hospital without him. And I took my sister everyday back to the hospital so she could be with him. A few days after being released my sister spiked a temperature and I took her to the ER, she was hospitalized with a fever. She was only there a couple days and then she was released. The elders had called me during this time to see why I still wasn't at meetings and I explained the whole situation. It completely fell on deaf ears. I just couldn't understand why they were so uncaring. Even if they didn't care for my sister cause she was a non-JW why didn't they care anything for the baby who was ill?

One evening on the drive home from the NICU the car was silent, no one was happy about the situation and we all just wanted the baby to come home. I was thinking a lot to about what the elders had said and how I could make up the time at meetings I had lost when all of a sudden this wave of emotion hit me and I realized I don't want to do this anymore. I just didn't want to be a JW anymore and I really didn't know why except that it no longer felt right.

I kept this thought to myself though. 2 weeks after my nephew was born he was finally released from the hospital. But only 2 days after he went home my sister became very ill. She had gotten an infection from the birth and was re-hospitalized. Her husband had to work, so I kept the baby with me so he could work and be with my sister. So now I had a brand new baby, on top of my own three, to care for. And still my explanations and pleas with the elders fell on deaf ears. No one came to see if they could be of any assistance, no one cared at all. I had the baby for a week before my sister was released and ok to go home.

After that my mind was firmly made up to never go back, and I never did. So that is basically how I got out of the Org. Oh, and my sister and nephew are both perfectly healthy now and my nephew is the sweetest, happiest baby boy you ever did see.

Thought I'd properly introduce myself

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