Everywhere I go latley we meet damn Witnesses! The Cinema watching Quantum of Solice full of Witnesses...Mcdonalds having a coffee...Witnesses! And the "love bombing" starts. "We miss you, how are you!" {Sorry we ignored you} So my wife who is suffering from Depression went to the meeting today. {She attended another church one time!} She wants me to keep her company and come along, but I just cant stand anymore bullcrap!
My Wife goes back to Meetings after a year....but I just can't stomach it!
by Witness 007 12 Replies latest jw experiences
-
-
carla
Want to get out of going to meetings with her? Make a deal, for every meeting you attend she must attend a church of your choice (hour for hour). Problem solved, not likely she will agree to that. (side note- because jw's are never true to their word you must agree to things in advance and you get to go to your choice of church first BEFORE you go to a khell, otherwise after you have gone to a kh they will say they changed their mind and cannot hurt jah's feelings by entering a church)
-
abbagail
Not married so cannot say for sure, but gut instinct says,
"Honey, you know how much I love you and would support you in most anything, but this going to the KH affects ME so badly, in an unhealthy way, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally... because I just KNOW TOO MUCH by now.... Isn't there a way we can compromise on this? How about if I drive you and pick you up instead. Would that be okay? Would you please consider it?"
etc. As I said, sorry, I don't know, but I wouldn't be able to go just for the PRINCIPLE of the thing. -
carla
Sorry, I just don't get when ex jw's help their spouse carry on with this destructive cult. Would you give a heroin addict a ride to a drug house? Jw's expect others to do what they are not willing to do themselves. Would she or any jw give their spouse a ride to a church on a regular basis? doubtful. If jw's are the only ones who show 'real love amongst each other', why not let them show real love by picking her up on the way? If it isn't just a social club and she is really there just to hear the word of their god then it shouldn't matter who is there with her, the word of god should be enough.
-
WTWizard
You could also go to the meeting. You will take scrupulous notes about the program. Pay particular attention to any scriptures taken out of context or twisted, doctrines and promises that barely have any scriptural backing, and things that contradict known scriptures. If you are lucky, you might even find a part that contradicts another part of the same meeting.
Once you are at home, you both go through the notes. Again, you point out every time your partner mentions something they gained from the meeting. It shouldn't be too difficult to find it based on a scripture that was taken out of context or even blatantly unscriptural. Part of the deal is, after you go to the boasting session, you get to dissect the material and put the scriptures back in context. Plus, you get to use whatever Bible you choose.
I bet that will be the last time such a deal will be made.
-
oompa
I feel the same as you 007...my hardcore JW wife has never stopped going as I have for the past two years....every time she leaves...just like this morning I tell her how nice she looks. She has never even once asked me to please come along.....she is great at that winning over without a word thingy thank god.........I have some good friends there, and from time to time I think I might could just go, and do it for my wife, and see my old friends......and that then they may be more inclined to have more social activity with us......and even told my wife I was thinking about going with here some, but made it very clear it would only for her and for social reasons. She kinds said that was better than nothing. But I just have NOT been able to make myself go sit through that crap!...I feel very small about it......like I should be able to rise to the occasion...............oompa
-
treadnh2o
"Want to get out of going to meetings with her? Make a deal, for every meeting you attend she must attend a church of your choice (hour for hour). Problem solved..."
Unless she calls your bluff. Then it's back to 3 meetings a week for you. ( Plus another church until January)
Now that would be FUNNY!!!! -
LovesDubs
My guess is she wont be able to stand it either and this resurgance of interest will be short lived. Wait for it....
-
dogon
For me it is the only thing that went in my favor. I did not have to make a choice of a relationship or my conscience. I could not go to a meeting no mater what the cost. For me it would be like supporting someone who had killed my family. And in many ways they did just that. I could not sit there even if it meant life and death. The hypocrisy, arrogance and plain stupidity of the organization and even the rank and file is to much to stomach. I look at the R&F the same way as the people who supported the Third Reich. With out them the leadership is nothing. When I went I was just as guilty. I will not give them a pass and do not ask for one for my blind support of this evil cult. If I were you I would give my wife a choice, the organization or me. I am in no way telling what to do, you have to make your own choice. But I look at it this way, even if you do not make a choice now, eventually one will be made for you. Slowly you will be made to be on the outside looking in. Your wife will if she keeps being part of the organization be more and more involved with the people of the congregation, and you will either have to give in and obey or be the out cast who is talked about when your back is turned. These cowards never say things to your face, they only talk about you in a condescending way behind your back. Then smile to your face as if they really care if you live or die. By putting the situation off you are doing nothing but delaying what will have to be a confrontation. And if you really care about your wife, you allow her to become more controlled by the cult.
-
bonnzo
oompa, if you cant "rise" to the occasion, try spiritual viagra. just dont get it stuck in your throat, you'll get a stiff neck.