by BonaFide 38 Replies latest jw friends
I give you my condolances. Wish I could sit with you and comfort you. Here is a book that brings a lot of comfort and hope to people who are dying or have lost loved ones. It's called Closer to the Light: Learning from Near Death Experiences of Children by Dr Melvin L. Morse
This is a book researched by a doctor on experiences related to him by patients and colleagues on near death experiences and death bed visions. It's not a difficult read at all.
Dear Bonafide,
How sad I was to hear of your father's passing. Just think he is no longer in any more pain or suffering and although that doesn't seem to be the right thing to say at this moment believe me when I say it will get better. Yes it takes time to heal for some take longer than others and others never get over it.
Imagine just for a brief moment, would your father want you to be so terribly upset like this? I just bet he would be more than upset with you. He would say son I am fine and now don't worry we will see each other again. And I believe that to be factual. I hope you do to. Without hope we have nothing to live for..
I don't know exactly how but it will happen. I know that in the vastness of the universe God must have other planets in other galaxies where life exists, I truly believe that. I know that it is very difficult right now. We are all here for you. I lost my father too, and my husband last year. and I still cry and so the pain doesn't just stop, you will see him in many things, when doing certain work or looking at a picture or just sitting down and letting your mind recall all the memories of days gone by happy days memories that you and your dad shared together. Those things will keep your father alive in your heart and mind. I know that sometimes not only do I cry but sometimes I start laughing because somethings remind me of times we shared a good laugh over. It will get better really it will.
Dear Heavenly Father,
Please be with your servant who needs your comfort now more than ever. He has lost his precious father. Please Lord keep him strong during this time of trial. He will need your spirit to go on as he is feeling very sad and we know that you and your Holy Word are very comforting. Your Holy Spirit is needed so much right now for him to carry on. Please lift up his spirit and let him take your hand as he walks through the valley of death, and he shall fear no evil for your rod and staff will comfort him. Father let us remember that nothing is impossible with you and in time your dear servant will be rejoined with his loving father. Give him faith, hope, comfort and love to carry on in his journey of life. Protect him please with your loving arms embrasse him towards you and one more thing father please don't allow your servant to be lonely he needs friends who can be with him at this time so dear Father perhaps you'll find someone who will keep him from being lonely. A good true friend.
As with all things Father we honour you and praise you and offer this prayer to you in the name of our Saviour, Christ Jesus
Amen.
love
Orangefatcat
You have many friends on this forum who are here for you. I sent you a PM.
He loved you and you loved him.
We all have regrets but he wouldn't want you to beat yourself up or let others bring you down.
He was proud of you. He would only want you to remember him with love.
Depending on what you believe now..... there is still a resurrection in the Bible, just not the fuzzy lion petting kind called the 'new system'.
Whatever you faith is now, hold tight to it.
A father's love is never ending and one day you will pass it on to your own future children..... that is his legacy to you.
Hugs...... Yknot.
Bonafide, so sorry to hear of your loss.
I am sorry for your loss, too.
I am very sorry to ehar about your loss. I will pray for you and your family.
((BonaFide))
You've had some great advice here. This too shall pass.
MM.
After reading your post and Orange's prayer, all I can say is, peace to you.
You are loved and valued, both by the Father and the people on this board.
Sylvia
Bonafide, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I know the tendency is to focus on what you "wish you had done" with your dad. We all could handle our relationships a little better, especially when you take into consideration the influence of the WTS over our relationships with non-JWs while we were fully indoctrinated. But, try to think of the positive aspects of your relationship. The things "you did" with your dad. Your pain is a normal reaction. It will subside in time, but I know that doesn't make it any easier right now.
