Can loving/giving too much ruin a relationship?

by mtsgrad 41 Replies latest jw friends

  • mtsgrad
    mtsgrad

    I just gotta know.

    mtsgrad

  • BabaYaga
    BabaYaga

    Yes... if only one in the relationship is doing all the loving and giving. If it is balanced, and give-and-take, and if both parties make the other one feel appreciated, then I would think an overabundance of loving and giving would be a great thing.

    Love,
    Baba.

  • BabaYaga
    BabaYaga

    OH... and one important bit... if you are doing too much loving and giving really, really EARLY in a relationship, then yes most definitely it could be the cause of ruin. That could scare anyone away.

  • yknot
    yknot

    No..... but someone not returning the love/giving can.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow
    No..... but someone not returning the love/giving can.

    I agree. Real, atruistic love will not ruin anything. Selfishness will.

  • LouBelle
    LouBelle

    If it's healthy loving and giving with no hidden agendas then there cant be too much. Note again HEALTHY.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    The giving should be sincere, not forced--fake giving can ruin everything. And so can deception and lying--giving with strings attached can be a sign of manipulation ahead, and that can ruin everything.

    And, if the "giving" is in the form of always going out in field circus and attending the boasting sessions, it can cause other damage long after.

  • no more kool aid
    no more kool aid

    Giving 100 percent is great as long as the other person is too and your needs are being met. If the loving and giving is in a sense spoiling the other person and they are becoming an a catered to brat, then that is toxic.

  • is there help out there
    is there help out there

    It is give and take in any relationship. The main point is does this person make you feel loved?

  • aligot ripounsous
    aligot ripounsous

    giving too much one way is quite often a manifestation of emotional neediness and as such is not the sign of a balanced relationship, which is based on mutual giving. As said by an earlier poster, it will rather put off the recipient. In the worst case, it will draw him/her to take advantage of the situation and fool the giver, illustrating the saying that a person whose friendship (feelings) you try to buy is not worth the money you put on him/her. Good to be a giver, provided a deserving receiver is facing.

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