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mtsgrad
Can loving/giving too much ruin a relationship?
by mtsgrad 41 Replies latest jw friends
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FlyingHighNow
No..... but someone not returning the love/giving can.
I agree. Real, atruistic love will not ruin anything. Selfishness will.
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WTWizard
The giving should be sincere, not forced--fake giving can ruin everything. And so can deception and lying--giving with strings attached can be a sign of manipulation ahead, and that can ruin everything.
And, if the "giving" is in the form of always going out in field circus and attending the boasting sessions, it can cause other damage long after.
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no more kool aid
Giving 100 percent is great as long as the other person is too and your needs are being met. If the loving and giving is in a sense spoiling the other person and they are becoming an a catered to brat, then that is toxic.
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is there help out there
It is give and take in any relationship. The main point is does this person make you feel loved?
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aligot ripounsous
giving too much one way is quite often a manifestation of emotional neediness and as such is not the sign of a balanced relationship, which is based on mutual giving. As said by an earlier poster, it will rather put off the recipient. In the worst case, it will draw him/her to take advantage of the situation and fool the giver, illustrating the saying that a person whose friendship (feelings) you try to buy is not worth the money you put on him/her. Good to be a giver, provided a deserving receiver is facing.