How Many Sit on the Fence? (page 2)

AgentSmith

I think the fence collapsed for me, I then rolled up the fence and tossed it into the machine. Cannot go back. There is nothing over there worth violating my conscience.

Agent Smith

I don't think they'd want me back! There's no way I'd keep my mouth shut about all the untold scandals regarding the dubs. And the elders probably realise that. Which may be why I never here from them - even after that recent "loving" reactivation WT study article.

I was at a jw funeral recently and that was enough sales pitch for at least a year! Another brother in the same cong has just died but I physically can't take returning there again so soon!

If they do bring about this notion of DAing inactive ones, then I'll still speak to my in family. If they don't want to talk to me, or see my son growing up, then that's on them. As much as I love them, I'm not walking on egg shells for their sake anymore.

quietlyleaving

what I'm seeing in my area is a quiet cutting off of contact. This hasn't happened to me yet. But I do find fence sitting is a tenable position for me.

undercover

If tomorrow they decided that da'ing or fading or in simple terms, being inactive for any reason whatsoever, was a shunning offense - how many would start going back immediately just so their family wouldn't be cut off? How many would not go back and would instead would be willing to stand firm on their belief that the WTS is wrong in what they teach?

I'm not going back...I haven't been in years, except for the Memorial.

I would like it if they decided to shun the inactive. To shun the inactive ones as a class would fly in the face of their current teaching of showing mercy to the inactive. It gives us ammo.

If it was announced that "we", the inactive, were to be shunned and my family begged me to come back so as to not have to shun me, I would have the oppurtunity to show them just how unscriptural and unchristian such a practice is. Instead of "helping" me, they're just going to cut me off, never speaking to me again? Even the pressure to come back because of their having to shun me is dishonest on their part. One should be a JW because (in their view anyway) of their love of God and wanting to please him, not because we might get shunned or disciplined.

ex-nj-jw

I havn't been in 26 years no way would I return to that mess!

Hell no!

nj

civicsi00

For months I felt like I was just "sitting on the fence". I didn't know if I should go through with DA, or getting DF.

Now I could care less. I wouldn't go back just to keep in touch with family. If they don't want to talk with me, that's on them.

Quirky1

I wouldn't, couldn't ever go back...

OUTLAW

Think of how many who don`t go out into the field service,but still go to the Kingdom Hall.........Or..Are not in the ministry school,but still go to the Kingdom Hall.....Or..Don`t go to the Kingdom Hall regularly but show up for Memorial and a day or so at an assembly....................Kingdom halls have many that are considered Weak and Inactive.........There will always be the Hard Core JW.....But.....There are always going to be a percentage of hangers on..Inactive ones right in the Kingdom Hall...........The WBT$ will never get rid of them..They keep Memorial attendance up..They are good to point out,as bad examples.....And..they support the WBT$!!.....It`s not in the WBT$`s best interest to get rid of them..............................

Laughing Mutley ...OUTLAW

still_in74

I WOULD SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.............i would then be free without me doing anything or hurting anybody directly.........PLEASE let that happen...set me free...baby...set me free

I have thought the same thing. WTS has indicated that for those that are inactive and have been away from meetings for an extended period of time would actually be asked to study again to come back, and if you refused you would essentially confirming your position that you are no longer one of JW's.

This would be a great way to be "DF'd" - for doing nothing! I think some family & friends would have a problem with that.

How Many Sit on the Fence?

chickpea