by caliber 37 Replies latest jw friends
Yes let's start a list... what things do you feel are better left unsaid on JWN or on any public site maybe even ?
(1) planned affairs (2) talking about a partner who one day maybe post on site or has a friend who does
(3) anything to do with abuse of children
(4) causing physical harm to JW's who call on you
what would you add or maybe even take away from my list ?
Cal
I'll add my vote for #1 and #2. 3 and 4 go without saying.
Ditto to all above. Nothing abusive
Danny Hazard.
He should be in jail.
Better left unsaid
(3) anything to do with abuse of children
No that doesn't belong on the list.
We need to speak out about any kind of abuse but especially the abuse of children.
I don't recall ever seeing #1 discussed until just recently. Tacky and distasteful. #3 Is usually addressed in a serious way that is probably helpful to many, but it has to be watched as we found out recently.
I have a couple more in mind but they are personal opinions and I wouldn't think they should be imposed on everyone.
LadyLee,
anything to do with abuse of children
Sorry for my poor wording .. I agree abuse should be discussed and brought to light.
What I meant was siding with or minimizing abuse of children as normal
example a recent thread that stated that sex with 13-14 girls by a 22 old male was OK or normal not so bad
I am truly sorry for misleading wording
Cal
being abusive and threatening
I am guilty of #2, even tho I've never said anything bad. I've always looked for support to an explosive time in my life but you make good sense. I will refrain from doing such in the future and maybe even looking to these boards for such.
Maybe it is time to give them up.
We're only human. If someone trusts us enough to tell us they comtemplate an affair doesn't bother me. The WT will break apart a marriage. It breaks a bond when one partner leaves "Mother" and the other one doesn't. It splits loyalties and deciding to leave a spouse is a hard decision. You've got to realize these men in question have been with their wives for quite awhile.....but recently EVERYTHING changed when one spouse left the religion. I think the questions about infidelity were more a "how do I deal with this distance I suddenly find between my spouse and I" question.
I don't think anyone expected us to condone it or say "go for it". Sometimes putting your worst thoughts "out there" and getting feed back gives your perspective. I don't envy the place that faded or DA's spoused find themselves in. I'd hate to the "the enemy" in my own house. That is just WRONG.......and they way the WT treats people who are married and fade is wrong too. Words like spiritual endangerment and the like----it's horsecrap. They are just afraid of losing a drone.
It's just another way the WT alienates you when you leave. It's just a symptom......the WT is the disease.
