My JW mother in law died tonight

by free2beme 14 Replies latest jw friends

  • free2beme
    free2beme

    Death is an end to the physical life, no matter what religion you hold dear. Sharing that moment, with the person as they pass, is something that is special and yet hits hard in the heart. My mother in law passed tonight, after a battle with breast cancer. We were there with her, and it was one of the hardest nights of my life. One I would not care to repeat, and yet I am glad I was there. I know I am not as regular to this board, as I used to be. But there is one bit of advice I hope any former Witnesses will listen too, from a person who has matured a long ways past the anger and hatred of the religion.

    That advice being ...

    When you sit among Witness in times of complete emotion and love for what has happened in death and they say things about the religion, like mentioning their hope in the resurrection or anything else. It is not a time to argue, it is a time to hug and love and just take all those thoughts in your mind of how this is not real and right and shut the hell up. Love last, religion does not, and know when to love and not argue. For love is what we all need and even more so when someone special passes.

    Thanks and may you all remember that life is too short to spend it angry.

  • free2think
    free2think

    Im sorry for you and your family's loss f3bm.

    Thanks and may you all remember that life is too short to spend it angry.

    I totally agree, life is much too short. We can be thankful we have left and live and love knowing our time here is short, and make it meaningful.

  • unclebruce
    unclebruce

    ((((((free2B))))

  • WuzLovesDubs
    WuzLovesDubs

    That was a beautiful statement Free. Im so glad you got to be there with her. Not many are allowed around our JW relatives, dying or not and Im sure it meant a lot for you to be there for her.

    Im so sorry for all the suffering SHE had to go through with that awful disease. :*(

    hugs, LD

  • Mary
    Mary
    When you sit among Witness in times of complete emotion and love for what has happened in death and they say things about the religion, like mentioning their hope in the resurrection or anything else. It is not a time to argue, it is a time to hug and love and just take all those thoughts in your mind of how this is not real and right and shut the hell up. Love last, religion does not, and know when to love and not argue. For love is what we all need and even more so when someone special passes.

    That is so true. Someone asked me if I was going to give a copy of the project I did to my JW sister and I said "absolutely not". She's got enough on her plate right now with my brother in law having been recently diagnosed with a potentially life threatening disease and now is not the time to tell her that the religion is a crock. For now, they've got close friends that are supporting them, the religion helps fill their spiritual need and I am just there to love and support them. The only thing I would do, is show her some information about the blood doctrine, if it comes up.

    You're a good person free2beme and I'm glad you were able to be there with your mother in law as she passed on.

  • cabasilas
    cabasilas

    Free2beme,

    You speak some wise words. My condolences to you and your family. We went through the same thing with my Mother in Law a few years back. We were just glad to be able to be with her in her last days and express our love for her as she died.

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    I'm sorry, free2beme, for your and your family's loss.

    Yes ... a time to speak, a time to remain silent....

    You chose wisely.

    Love,

    CoCo

  • Warlock
    Warlock

    My condolences to you and your husband.

    Dealing with the death of a loved one is never easy.

    Warlock

  • Quirky1
    Quirky1

    Sorry for your loss F2B....

  • StAnn
    StAnn

    I'm very sorry for your loss F2BM.

    StAnn

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