Sorry. I guess I didn't answer your question. No I'd never go back. Let's assume for a moment that they do have it right. I'm not the kinda person Jehovah want's in his new world.
Beside for ever is a long time without a bit of oral
Maybe I should just bite the bullet and GO BACK ?
by AK - Jeff 59 Replies latest jw friends
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Finally-Free
Going back is no guarantee you'll have friends among them again. JWs have long memories when they think you've done something wrong, and you could find yourself looked down on even after reinstatment. Any new person coming into the hall will be told you were DF'd once. When I first joined them I was made aware of everyone's "status" long before I was baptized.
I didn't have any friends during my 20 years as a JW, so I was used to solitude by the time I left them. Over time I learned to prefer my own company.
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quietlyleaving
Its tough when you are restricted from making new friends by your circumstances. JWs tend to welcome families and there are some very nice JWs so I'm not surprised that you sometimes think of going back.
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Gregor
If you are a little down now just multiply that ten-fold if you started living a lie as a pretend JW. Then of course there is the possibility your brain might just get sucked back in.
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OnTheWayOut
I'm trying to figure out why you are saying this. You are sincere, yet you know it would never work.
IF you manage to ignore the nonsense long enough to get reinstated (and you know you could not),
then you would be sitting at the Kingdom Hall saying to yourself, "This is Bullsxxx . "You would wake up again and realize what a waste of time this was, or you will gain some friends
and realize how conditional their friendship is, and how they are totally slaves.I am not lecturing you. I am just seeing the natural conclusion to your thought.
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AK - Jeff
Jerry - this is just an exercise in Devil's Advocate. [See my 2nd post here]. Just feeling a little goofy today.
I could never, ever go back. I don't like to play pretend.
I just thought I would play opposite day as one poster said, to see what happened. I could/would never go back.
Jeff
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BabaYaga
Aw, Jeff, I am very sorry you are feeling this way.
Wouldn't it make more sense to go join a volunteer group or something with folks who are doing something you are interested in? Good lord, with all the time it takes for meetings and service, you have plenty of time to meet new (and real) folks.
Love and great big cyber hugs to you,
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journey-on
I think there is a window of time when one can go back and pick up where they left off. After that, the inner conflict would be more painful than the pain from losing the old and familiar. But if you feel compelled to try it, I say go for it.
We do other things in life for reasons other than what it seems on the surface. Some people work at jobs they hate just so they can put food on the table. What's wrong with participating in a religion you aren't sure of just so you can associate with the type of people you know and are familiar with. We turn a blind eye to bosses that are inept and self-serving to hold on to our jobs. Why can't we turn a blind eye to religious leaders that are the same to hold on to our friendships? If you are unhappy and friendless and think you could be happy being a fake witness just to have them as friends, do it.
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WuzLovesDubs
Jeff, others might think Im crazy to say this...but if you think there is something there you need to resolve yet, go back. You will find out that it will NEVER be the same as it was before with the "friends" and your thinking process will not allow you to stomach the drivel they are spewing to you and expecting you to swallow unquestioningly day after day, week after week... and I believe you will soon leave again but that nagging thought that maybe its better on that side of the fence will be resolved.
Those people are not your friends just because they label themselves as such. Where are they now? Would true friends desert you because you dont think the same way they do? No..they sure wouldnt.
My mother in law went back after DAing herself in 99. She thought she could return to the way it was...and she went through the groveling and humiliation to get herself reinstated and everything. And less than six months after her reinstatement she realized how godless this organization was and left again...never to look back.
If you are wanting friends honey, the planet has 6.5 billion people on it. Get out there :)
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AK - Jeff
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