When I first talked to my husband about my feelings about the borg, every discussion ended in an argument and an impasse. For a few months it was the elephant in the room for us. Now we regularly have calm and rational conversations about things and my husband is seeing the light.
Some people need time.
That's true, some people need time. But you can't let too much time go by without facing the situation at all. Wuz is right that it doesn't go away.
For you as a couple, you've found a way to communicate rationally and respectfully. That's great. You've slowly broken the cult grasp of him, I'd venture a guess.
But not everyone learns to act, think and respond rationally when it comes to discussing the JW faith. The cult grasp is too strong on some people.
Personally, I like your method and I've tried it to a lesser degree of success. Having been there, and still facing some degree of it, it's hard to get someone to face evidence contrary to a belief. If they're so ingrained that they can't or won't look at the opposing side, you're going to either have to go on ignoring the elephant or ending up in arguments ever so often.
If that's the case, counseling may be the thing that's needed. A goog therapist/counselor isn't going to take sides but will help each person learn to communicate better, because that's what it boils down to...communication. Communication is easy when both sides agree, but if one changes a belief and has trouble expressing it...or the other refuses to listen or accept the obvious, communication breaks down. Over time resentment will build and eventually more trouble will come of it.
We're all different and we all respond differently to new and stressful situations.
Good luck Jimmy...
