I Asked Help of an Old JW Friend, He Refused to Reply - My E-mail to Him

by Seeker4 29 Replies latest jw friends

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  Seeker4

  Min, you're probably right. I wasn't trying to win him over, though. Just telling him how I feel, and that's definitely part of it.

  This is a guy who knows about the talkorigins.com site. He's not ignorant of the problems with the Bible.

  Sometimes you want to say, "Hey, you're judging me as unworthy to talk to cause I'm no longer a JW and I'm living with my girlfriend? Well, I think you're incredibly ignorant to believe that Adam was created 6,038 years ago and that Jehovah is about to kill 6 billion people to show how much he loves humankind!"

  So, I guess that maybe the sheep and camel herders comment was a little nicer!

  S4
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  minimus

  He should realize your GF is off limits! How is that hottie doin'??
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  Gregor

  Outlaw, I know what you're saying. It's just that I pretty much refuse to be disrespected, and I want him to know that.

  Just a thought, but perhaps this has nothing to do with his being a lockstep shunner due to your apostasy. Maybe he was really turned off by your serial adultery on your wife, whom he seems to be friends with. A lot of people besides JWs consider that a real no no.

  Not judging. Hopes it help clear up what's behind your old friends attitude.
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  BabaYaga

  Yes, you know, with that particular sentence I have to agree with Minimus. I do try to rein in my feelings about the bible and the old testament god in general, when speaking to those still in. Baby steps, as it were. I remember my knee-jerk reactions to hearing the bible being called "myth". That is "shut-down" talk.

  But the rest... I really do hope it sparks his heart and mind.
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  Mickey mouse

  I hope you get a response, seeker. It may really anger him, which is good. Sometimes you have to touch a raw nerve.
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  Seeker4

  Perhaps you're right Gregor.

  But, one interesting thing I noticed is that it was ONLY JWs who shunned me. My wife's best friends who were not JWs might have been pissed off at me that I left her for another woman, and many of them knew a hell of a lot more than this guy did, BUT, NONE of the non-JWs have ever refused to talk with me.

  In fact, most of them have been downright decent to me, and with the passing now of several years, I get no bad reactions from her non-JW friends and co-workers. And this is small town America we're talking about here.

  It seems it is only the JW mentality that feels the need to judge and punish.

  S4
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  mkr32208

  I wonder if he's even reading them though or just deleting them...
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  Seeker4

  He read the last one, because he discussed it with my ex-wife. It was about our grandson.

  The only other time I've ever contacted him was when the Sept 2007 KM Question Box came out. I e-mailed him a copy of the info before the KM was available to him, and asked how something like that didn't upset him. This is a guy with a Masters and he is the author of the best selling Neurofeedback book on the market. He gives seminars on the subject all over the world.

  I wondered how someone with his educational background could support an organization that discouraged any outside research on itself, and whether or not that didn't alarm him in any way.

  S4
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  AllTimeJeff

  I am always of two minds about talking to an indoctrinated borgbot, but in the case of a good friend, all you are doing is planting seeds. If he comes around, he will thank you one day. Excellently written!!!
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  coffee_black

  I think it's good that you called him on his lack of simple human decency. That alone might make him think...well probably not, but you never know.

  Coffee