Can Anyone Actually Live By JW Rules/Suggestions?

by Skeptic 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • Skeptic
    Skeptic

    I seriously doubt that anyone could actually live strictly by the JW rules and "suggestions" give by the Society and the congregation. Like the Catholic Church, there are now so many rules you cannot follow them all. Unlike the Catholic Church, the Dubs to not allow you to use your head and deviate when you want.

    I remember my first wife struggling to live by Dub rules. I was out of the JW religion by then. I had been a studious JW then, and knew most of the rules we were to live by. I felt bad for her when she joined a group of women to catch a bouquet of flowers...she did not know it was not allowed. I didn't bother telling her.

    There are any number of stupid rules that get in the way:
    Don't tip your hat to a lady;
    Don't toast; how rude!
    Don't celebrate holidays or birthdays.
    Don't give gifts in same month as holidays or birthdays.
    No sex except missionary position. And make even that as boring as possible.
    If your wife cuts you off of sex (because she is gay?), no masturbation, no adultery...try that for 15 years!
    Don't lie...yeah, right! Many a sister has been 'misdirected' when it was time to take her to a surprise baby shower...
    Read newspaper & listen to radio every day.
    Don't buy at garage sales;
    Don't keep religious items, even if they have sentimental value.
    Don't dress overly attractive, especially sisters.
    Don't kiss or hold hands with your date.
    Don't date until you are ready to marry...there's a dumbass rule if I ever heard one....how do you know who you are compatible with if you don't date many people with no pressure?
    Don't have sex before marriage...that way you can ensure you and your spouse will have lousy sex forever...especially if your spouse is gay.
    Don't be gay (my previous comments assumed heterosexual marriages)...this one has caused untold suffering for gay JWs....and for heterosexual marriages because gay JWs may also be trained to deny that part of their sexuality. You know, a homophobic gay JW.
    Go to field service and meetings as often as you can.
    Always be doing something thoecractic.
    Always read/talk about somethin theocractic...no wonder JWs are so dull to talk to.
    Don't leave your husband if he is bad to you.
    Never divorce...suffer for the rest of your life for a decision you made when you twenty. When my ex told me that that was the only reason she didn't leave, I told her that we should break up; that is the stupidiest reason for being together.
    Keep going to mind-numbing meetings and assemblies even though you know every bit of material by heart, and could give the talks without notes.
    If you are fortunate enough to have left your marriage mate, never remarry unless your former mate had sex. A recipe for misery for life.
    Marry only another JW, another recipe for misery, esp. for many sisters. And then they are supposed to wait until the brother is at least an MS...something that is rarely followed as marriable brothers are at a premium.
    Avoid the Internet, especially sites that challenge the JW faith; a sure-fire way of letting people know that the JW faith cannot stand up to scrutiny.
    Believe dumbass things like: The earth was originally created to be tropical and hence very warm. Also, at that time, Jehovah specifically designed polar bears to withstand extreme cold.

    Anyway, I have raved enough. Of course, most JWs survive by ignoring the rules. Many today do not even know the rules because most are not studious.

    Richard

  • refiners fire
    refiners fire

    No.Noone can live by all the rules. Thats why it is one of Liftons Criteria for mind control. Set a standard of behaviour that noone can possibly live up to. They fail to live up to it. They feel guilty.
    Dont worry to much about the guilt they made us feel. It could be a lot worse.You could have been a Seventh Day Adventist. They specialize in guilt.

  • Satanus
    Satanus

    Skep

    You know what this means don't you?? .. That's right, NOBODY GETS INTO THE NEW SYSTEM ALIVE. An empty paradise, w 144000 heavenly idiots w nothing to rule, except animals. Jesus scratching his head, thinking, maybe i shoulda included more in my covenenant. Oh well, at least the angels won't be tempted to materialise anymore.

    SS

  • VeniceIT
    VeniceIT

    well I did for about 22 years hahah then I left

    Ven

    "Injustice will continue until those who are not affected by it are as outraged as those who are."

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    Hey St. Satan,That is so F@%$kn twisted,LOL...OUTLAW

  • Skeptic
    Skeptic

    refiners fire,

    Very good point! The many rules are not only for control (and to justify the GB's existence) but to induce great guilt. I remember always feeling guilty and not good enough. I finally decided that God was either incompentent or a bastard. Of course, at that time my idea of God is what the JWs believed. MANY Christian faiths have a kinder version of God...

    It is interesting the you mention the Seventh Day Adventist faith. Russell was influenced by the Seventh Day Adventist's and it shows in the JW faith.

    To have more guilt than the JW faith is really amazing. It sounds like quite a story. Were you a Seventh Day Adventist? I would like to hear your story.

    Richard

  • beepers
    beepers

    That's why almost all of the single sisters I know are on Prozac or some other anti-depressant. It's really very sad.
    Amy

  • Skeptic
    Skeptic

    VeniceIT,

    I suffered through it for close to 20 years as well.

    Did you come up with a name for your line of skin care products?

    Richard

  • refiners fire
    refiners fire

    I was never committed in my heart to any other church than the Witnesses, Richard, but I have researched and attended extensively, at Seventh day Adventism, Mormonism and Pentecostalism.All of them are different, all of them are the same.Adventist theology sets an incredibly high standard of purity. Moreso than the dubs. Hence, greater guilt.
    By the way do not let the thoughts of Saint Satan enter into your mind...they are..SATANIC!! As outlaw says..."twisted"

  • Skeptic
    Skeptic

    Amy,

    Yes, it is tragic. Single sisters are so lonely. I remember when I was studying, the sisters literally lined up to talk to me. The elders put a stop to that...

    It is so sad to see.

    Richard

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