I am an Ex JW and I just left quietly. I was in Bethel and started seeing HUGE holes in the borg. I was also a non practicing homosexual (undeclared at the time). Now I resigned from Bethel, left quietly and ended up moving countries... I am now living with my partner in England. I have not attended a meeting since I left the borg. Is there a chance I may be disfellowshiped still? I mean I have been out for 6 years now... is there a time limit on "sin" and being df'ed? Oh by the way, I am quite the little "sinner" now... smoke, do birthdays and Xmas etc etc
I had considered df'ing myself, but I have some family left in the borg (they know I am gay) and I know this would just complicate things and I also do not want to give people the satisfaction of reading my letter out!!!
What does everyone think? Are there any expriences of years going by and then someone getting Df'ed? Ex Elders, how is it handled?
Hey, Brit, as far as I know, they can DF you anytime for any reason. If you are not dependent on anyone, then I would think that you should just DA yourself.
Congrats on living a life true to yourself. I hope you stay happy, and away from the borg.
ashi
P.S.-I've not gone to a meeting in two years, and the elders are still trying to DF me......oh brother.
I have heard of cases (actually know one) where the person was df'd after several years, but I think it depends on the area you live in. More than likely, since you moved away from your last congregation, you'll probably never hear from them. If I were you, I would just continue my inactivity.
I am living a life true to myself! And I have NEVER been happier! My parner (Matthew) is a Doctor and has a LOT of run in's with JW's over the blood issue... he thinks they are all mad! LOL. TWO YEARS and still being hounded eh?? Well I can tell you are losing a LOT of sleep over that one!! LOL, my sin is up there with Satanism though... I bet your's isn't as juicy as mine!! (Sin that is!! *blushing*)
Your odds are probably pretty slim of getting disfellowshipped. At this point it is almost redundant to kick out the boy who hasn't been involved for the last 6 years. Like, what would be the point? And who likes to do paperwork?
: I mean I have been out for 6 years now... is there a time limit on "sin" and being df'ed?
The Flock book has a section which instructs the elders to take into consideration how long one has been inactive before considering disfellowshipping. It hints that if one has been out a long time, no action should be taken. Typical of the WTS, though, it is not specific about how long a period that should be. Since you were at Bethel, you are quite aware that the society ALWAYS wants to have EVERYTHING both ways. That gives them plenty of room to maneuver.
Cygnus, who posts on this board was inactive for 3 years and never caused any dissentions among JWs. He just faded away. They hunted him down and DFd him, anyway.
I will celebrate my 30th year of being out in 2002. If they try to DF me, I will sue their asses off!
If you'v changed countries it's unlikely that your old congregation will know much about you, the trouble will only start if there are dubs near you who know you are an ex and decide to pursue it.
Farkel: I didn't realise that you were not a qualified disfellowshippeee. Gasp. Does this mean that you could be accepted by WOL?
I am also an exJW homosexual. My partner and I live outside Atlanta, Georgia. Visit my web page www.joelbear.com for pictures of us.
My vote is not to worry about it and just go on with your life. That is what I planned to do until my brother and family came over to my apartment one night and insisted I go to the elders.
Oh well. None of them are in my life any more which hurts me sometimes, but mostly I just have moved on.
You will most likely be left totally alone, especially as not being near your home congregation. I have several friends who have done the same and it is about the safest way of getting out and doing what you will while being left alone by the WTS.
Also after six years of being gone, if anyone approached you, I would make clear to them that you are obviously not a JW anymore and that you will consider any action toward you by the Witnesses as harrassment and will sue their asses off.
Personally, I have remained in the rural area where I was a JW for +30 years, so I have been very quiet about any of my activities for which I could be DF'd. It's been a couple of years since I've attended any meeting, and I would consider any action by the local elders as harrassment and make the same threat myself.
