Am I going to be Df'ed, should I be?

by BritBoy 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  Eyebrow

  I think it depends on whether your old congregation is going through the periodic "sifting and shaking". My local congregation went through that in the late 80s and early 90s. There were one or two extremely zealous elders that contacted several inactive people, and targeted a few that they wanted out, even ones that were not yet baptised.

  I believe the reason for this was because so many of the witness kids that I grew up with in the 80s lived totally double lives as teenagers and the congregation never caught on until the situation became down right embarrassing.

  This is how I discovered that disfellowshipping and marking are not always about the individual. It sometimes comes down to whether or not the elders need to make an example of someone.

  My advice...don't worry about it unless they come a calling.
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  kenny2

  Hello BritBoy

  I can give my own experience since it might seem to help or make some sense. I became inactive and moved to another state. Two or three years later, I joined the military. I had always kept in touch with a very good friend, who happened to be the son of an elder in my last congregation. He was unbaptized and a very good friend of mine but with the word spreading like wildfire the way it does, it became known of my wherabouts, and soon after i joined the military, he called me and informed me that they announced my df at the service meeting that week. No JC, no calls from elders. I called the congregation to make sure and it was confirmed, even though most in the cong didnt even know who i was, as I had just moved to that congregation before I became inactive.

  With your move and a new life, I guess what I'm saying is that if you keep in contact with anyone back where you are from, you might want to use discretion as far as what you tell them.

  I am not into playing by their rules at all, don't get me wrong. But those still in do play by the rules and if your family is aware of what your doing or not doing, being classified as "dfd" constitutes for them a whole new game plan as to how to treat you.

  Kenny2
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  wonderwoman77

  Hey Britboy, I have been out for 5 years. I have done things that would require dfing, but it has never happened and I only live an hour away from my old cong. The chances are slim to none....
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  Mulan

  Kenny, are you sure they df'd you and not da'd. That is the policy for those who join the military. There is a legal problem, in the US, if they df you for joining the military.

  Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)
  
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  kenny2

  Thats what I thought too Mulan, but I only verified over the phone. I was told that I was dfd. I thought their rules were that I should have been d/a but I just figure they broke their own rules and after growing up in the org I knew it wasnt the first time they did that.

  Does anyone know of a way I could find out for sure? It was back around Summer of 85, and most of the time I dont even care, but it might be nice to represent my "JW classification" appropriately.

  As far as I have been told though, I am dfd.

  Kenny2
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  sleepy

  Hello brittney, I mean britboy.
  There was an elder in one of my prevoius halls who left about 4 years ago and every one knows he is gay and living with a bloke.
  Nothing has ever been done about it.
  It really depends on your congregation and the local witnesses as to whether anything will happen.
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  termite 35

  EYEBROW; How could they disfellowship unbaptised pubs?do they do that
  Hi Britboy ,nice to hear/read you!x