by passwordprotected 42 Replies latest jw friends
if you jump, you'll meet a certain gruesome death, both you and your young children.
But you didn't. You landed in a life raft and rowed to shore, where you can explore all the land that surrounds you. However your friends will never get off the bridge, not even to the other side. They will always be waiting for the other side to come to them.
@ ninja; wow, I didn't know that! I bet he nicked the analogy from me, though
you should watch it all mark.......the part he's talking to his mate david duchovny after leaving is good (he tells duchovny about xenu)
btw....when he's talking about the bridge....it's scientology teachings....they are all on ....or trying to get on the bridge.....
I can totally relate Password. I "jumped" 2 years ago and despite being a prominent active sister in the congregation with many friends, not one elder came to see me. Not one. When I sent my letter to disassociate, no elder called me to persuade me not to "jump". None tried to persuade me to reconsider. None wanted to know my reasons. After 21 years a witness, they just washed their hands of me.
So much for leaving the 99 to search for the 1
jgnat says it for me....
i suspect more than will ever admit it
are hanging on by a fingernail, what
with all the b0rg-manufactured demand on
time AND intellect, in an economy circling
the gurgler, these drones are about to SNAP...
an inkling of the real truth, and they will
be leaping off the bridge too....
come on in, the water is fine!
Same here. I expected my friends to keep in touch as many were dubious that it was the truth. One friend always claimed that she did not want to live forever, and told me if I left she would "keep in touch, I am not in a cult." Needless to say no one keeps in touch and many now look the other way if they ever see me in the street.
I wanted to tell a few friends that I was leaving, my best friend basically dumped me. When I was telling her she got a paper and pen and started writing down the things I was saying and then at the end of conversation she asked if she could go to the elders with this, I told her if thats what she needed to do, then do it. When she was walking out the door she said, "Until I see positive things from you, you won't be hearing from me". Real nice huh? After so many years of listening to her talk about how horrible her husband is and how she can't stand him, I never once went to the elders about her problems but the minute I tell her something bam, gotta go to the elders. Still pisses me off!
True friendship with them just doesn't happen. It is all conditional, and when you break that condition you are no longer someone they can be around. Its really sad because Jesus says to love your neighbor, love your enemy, but I guess when we leave we no longer apply. They miss the whole thing about love.
Yes, the old friends do have a way of avoiding any former associate who "knows" the truth about the WT.
As with many relationships, one looks at the other and says, "You've changed." When we make the decision to unplug from the collective, we are the ones that are changing, unexpectedly and unacceptably. That is something that the dubs aren't programmed to deal with. If you are off fornicating, they can put the appropriate label on you. But when you say, or might say, "I don't agree with the organization," that will cause most to short-circuit. They don't know whether to try the "love bombing" or "marking" or "disfellowshipping" you. Usually, they do nothing in hopes that you will return and they can pick up like nothing had ever happened. Usually, they know that such will not happen.
Having seen such events from the inside, it is all very demoralizing for the dubs. With the indoctrination by the bOrg, they perceive it as you rejecting Jehovah... and THEM. "I don't want to know why you have chosen not to live forever with me in paradise." While the newly liberated feel that they have been rejected by the cult members, the cult members feel that they have been rejected by the newly liberated. And there will be plenty of others in the congregation to explain to your former friends that you were "not of our sort" or "vessels for a dishonorable purpose".
But really, do you want them coming after you with the zombie eyes and the moans, "The end is so close...", "You should come. This is going to be the best District Convention ever.", "We're all so proud that 7 year-old Junior is getting baptised." Then you will wish they had left you alone.
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