The grandma just got some instructions from one of the elders on how to handle babysitting her infant grandchild. When the daughter brings the baby to the house, she should hand it to the grandpa. (That's OK because Grandpa has never been baptized). Grandpa can then take the infant to grandma, but grandma is to have no conversation with her daughter. He is going ballistic over this and I can't blame him.
The grandpa has been going to meetings for years, and the elders would love to see him get baptized so they can control him. That will never happen.