by compound complex 15 Replies latest jw friends
does not look good either.
Have you ever thought or said that?
CoCo
Edited to add regarding Marjorie's comment. Sometimes I am beside myself trying to encourage acquaintances in the real world whose type of demands and/or desperate pleas used to undo me. Don't want to go that route again. But how do you say NO?
Hey, that would be cute on a t-shirt
Mrs. Jones ... IT IS! Just Google the above title and you'll see web pages for them.
CoCo
I really, really despise that saying.
Sorry, Marjorie ...
I was feeling overwhelmed with pleas for help from emotionally needy folk and should've stated that at the outset. Care to talk about it? I have broad shoulders. Really.
CoCo Cares
CoCo, I dislike that saying simply because it has its foundations in rudeness.
I am sorry to hear that you're feeling overwhelmed these days. It's been my observation in life that emotionally needy adults can be quite self-centered and selfish at times. If you have been dealing with that type of person lately, you have my utmost sympathy.
Rude schmude. It's funny as hell!
Love it. While I would never, ever say that to someone's face, I sure have smiled at the little signs when I see them.
Ranks right up there with: Lack of preparation on your part does NOT constitute an emergency on my part.
-Aude.
Thank you CoCo.
To answer you question:
Will it crush your spirit to acquiesce?
Are there any mutual benefits? Or are the benefits one-sided?
Will saying yes further the progress of humanity?
If you answered no to any of these questions, I would say to stay the course, and be true to your feelings.
Do not give in to emotional blackmail. No one else can live your life but you.
Thanks, Marjorie, Aude and John.
That's true about so-called emergencies. The lives of some whom I've known are high drama on a daily basis. Included in this are those who absolutely require professional help due to diverse abuse issues. The correctly stated matter of self-centeredness and, in addition, frequent displays of petulant behaviors merely add to the delightful mix.
My former brand of Christianity had me a ready but not always so willing doormat. A strong element of coercion and, yes, emotional blackmail have been involved.
I am learning to say no, but it hurts both ways. My survival and attention to personal needs, however selfish I have been made to feel when "neglecting" certain demanding individuals, are nonetheless important.
Gratefully,
CoCo
