I can please only one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow ...

by compound complex 15 Replies latest jw friends

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  cameo-d

  CoCo,

  One thing I really hate is when someone like that puts you on the spot in a way that they demand to know your reasons why.

  I feel that I should not have to give an excuse or reason.

  If I said "I can't or I won't" that should be sufficient.

  But it is just more of an energy drain when someone expects that they have the right to approve whether your "no" is justified to them.

  That irks me.

  In a case like that I might have to say..."My t-shirt just expresses my feeling today." And I would let it go.

  Sometimes when met with insistence, I might say "Are you trying to take advantage of my good nature?"

  I have found that when some people are very selfish and needy, whatever time you give them it is still never enough, and comments like above just go in one ear and out the other.

  With people like that, sometimes you have to get firm or a bit sassy to get your point across so they lay off for awhile.
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  compound complex

  Dear cameo:

  Have you been listening in to my inner conversations as well as to those with the people in my life?!?!? Not one question or declaration you've made has not crossed my mind nor caused me exceptional mental anguish. Especially trying are those needling questions that force an explanation out of you. Correct, too, is your statement that any amount of time and attention given the needy one is never enough.

  I hate not answering the phone, but you give some people an inch and they think they're a ruler.

  Not my "ruler" anymore.

  Many thanks,

  CoCo
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  compound complex

  bttt
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  mrsjones5

  "give some people an inch and they think they're a ruler"

  Another good t-shirt quote
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  Marjorie

  I agree, Cameo and CoCo. No matter how hard you try, in the end, there really is no pleasing such people.

  I have had similar problems with certain relatives of mine (coincidently, the JW and ex-JW ones).

  Am I wrong to expect a certain level of maturity and understanding from them? They certainly expect it from me. How I wish that those emotions were reciprocal.

  I do not want to rude, but...I also feel that my good nature is being abused.

  I love my family, but constantly hearing such childish accusations like "You have changed" when I won't give in to their demands, have set my teeth on edge.

  I don't want to hurt them, but life is much too short for emotional bullying.

  I have decided to gently and non-coercively help them to shape their personalities for the better...at least in my presence, anyway.
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  Marjorie

  Now that I agree with, Mrs. Jones!

  Put it on a t-shirt, CoCo, and sell it!