snubbed by the dubs...

by undercover 26 Replies latest jw friends

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  undercover

  I don't think my wife noticed it all. They were so into whatever it was they were talking about, I just kinda got shuffled out.

  To be honest, I don't mind not being in the conversation. I'm not a big conversationalist anyway...and I hate small talk.

  It was the absence of greeting and the obvious discomfort they showed of being in my presence that made the experience noteworthy. If it had been non-JWs, it would have been equally as bad and I probably would have commented on it afterwards, but since I knew what was driving their actions in this case, I knew it wasn't worth the battle sure to be started by commenting on it. Because, as you all know, it's our own fault that we're treated that way

  OMG...you have a reply
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  Marjorie

  Superiority complexes in the name of God. Refreshing.
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  Heaven

  undercover... anytime I'm in a situation like this I do 1 of 2 things.

  1) I excuse myself and go do something at the mall I wish to do. Like browse the book store or go get an ice cream cone (like Jamoca Almond Fudge in a chocolate lined waffle cone from Baskin and Robbins).

  2) I stand there looking interested with a certain song playing in my head ... like in this case it would be R.E.M's "Losing My Religion" with the words echoing ..... "Life is bigger... It's bigger than you and you are not me... The lengths that I will go to... The distance in your eyes..." as the words trail off with the music still playing in the background, I go to my happy place, completely tuning out those who are standing there.

  This is pretty much my defense mechanisms.
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  screwproof

  That is one thing I have never encountered from the witnesses at this congregation. I do not go except the to memorial to take my parent. But everytime I see any of them out in public they are all over me hugging me and telling me how much they miss me and to come back. They even come to my home at times to visit. I guess thats all bound to change once my parent passes away and I do not even go to the memorial anymore, you think?
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  AWAKE&WATCHING

  Can't ya just FEEL the love? Your story made me feel all warm and snuggly inside.

  I know there are those that feel like their hearts are ripped out when they come in contact with someone they can't treat like a human being. I pity the brain-washed because that's how I felt.

  What makes me want to vomit is the self-righteous, holier-than-thous that actually get off on sticking their smug little noses in the air and looking at you like you are dirt. Truly sickening.
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  mrsjones5

  You're a good one Under, my hubby would have walked away and reamed me out later for being rude.
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  Finally-Free

  1) I excuse myself and go do something at the mall I wish to do. Like browse the book store or go get an ice cream cone (like Jamoca Almond Fudge in a chocolate lined waffle cone from Baskin and Robbins).

  Great idea, but you missed the most important part. You come back and eat it in front of them.

  W
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  lancelink

  why did you let them have the upper hand in the conversation ?

  Since you were not in a KH, or AH, standing there and making your presence known, getting involved with their conversation and refusing them the satisfaction of their "religious rightousness" I believe would have made much more of an impact then walking away and allowing them to play out their little superiority role-playing.
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  chickpea

  "well, honey, since these fine
  examples of brotherly love insist
  on treating me like the bastard
  at a family reunion, i am gonna
  go ahead to spencer's gifts to
  get that tingly oil you like so much...."

  you have made it abundantly
  clear you wouldnt ever say or
  do such a thing in the presence
  of your SBM, but ya can daydream....
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  Dagney

  I've been thinking about this and decided the other day this was going to be the new point I harp on when talking to JW's. I would like to work in "how can you teach your children to hate?"

  To which they will get all blustery and deny they would do such a thing.

  Then I will point out, "when you cut a life long friend/family member out of your life, pretend they are invisible and don't exist, you are teaching your kids to treat people the same way of course! Which is unloving and no where near what Jesus taught. So how can you do it? How do you promote hatred as a "Christian? "