I leave the room for a few minutes and this is what happens...
Anyway, I probably shouldn't jump in here, but what the hell...
It took me awhile to get used to Gary's outspokenness but over time I can see that many times he has valid points. He's brusque and pointed and to someone not used to his brashness if may seem obnoxious.
While I agree with many of Gary's comments in the past about the Society, I think daniel-p has a valid point as well...JWs (bethelites or not) who come here are in the early stages of their awakening. They're not the problem, they're not the reason for many of our pains of sufferings of being a JW...they're victims just as we were.
It's not fair to lump a Bethelite who spent years doing common labor and serving in a congregation in the city, thinking they were serving Jehovah, with the leadership of the corporation, both the legal eagles and the GB.
However, while I think we're here as a support group for other exiting JWs, I do not think we should molly coddle them too much. They have to learn the truth about "the Truth". While some here may be the compassionate, understanding type who can empathize with those going through what we went through, it's good that there are those, to some extent, who will cut to the chase and unabashadly point out the worst of the worst about the cult of JWs.
Between those of us more likely to console and those willing to step on a few toes, I do think it helps newly exiting ones to come to grips with all that's wrong with the Watchtower Society quicker.
It's a social lesson in how to deal with different personalities and different opinions as well...something we never really learned as JWs, as we were all supposed to think alike and talk alike. It's good to mix it up here and learn to confront differing opinions and thoughts. In the end, we all have a common ground that pulls us back together.
(Nows when we all have a group hug)