My boyfriends mother was a jw. When I was interested in what they believed I was going to meetings. My boyfriend and I would hold hands during the meetings and people would look at us real strange. He wasn't baptized and either was I. we were pulled in the back room. haha. they wanted to know why we were holding hands. duh!! we like eachother and we were giong to get married in a few months. they gave us a whole speal on why we shouldn't hold hands and how we should think about baptizm first. it was so weird. we weren't doing anything wrong. a friend of mine is a jw, and I didn't know about chaperones. I was living at his parents house. they had an extra bedroom. I was raised with good morals without being a jw, and went and found a place with a friend. but before I did, my jw friend would always be there. I always wondered why. we had no alone time to talk because she was always there. she never said she was a chaperone. one day we went to her house, and her dads an elder, and gave us a talk on how our desires are strong at a young age and should never be alone together. one day, my bf at the time set up a big tent in the backyard. my jw friend was coming over with another friend and we were all going to sleep out in the tent. when she found out that my bf was going to sleep out there too she almost died!!! she made a big deal out of it and refused to stay and wanted to call her dad. well, he slept in the house just to make her happy. that was sooo embarrassing. we eventually did get married, and were told we held hands too much, and then I started noticing...how often do you see elders holding their wives hands? I never did. my husband and I were one of the few people who did in the cong. we were hounded on for months to get baptized after we were married and were even told that if we didn't get baptized before marriage, then we never would. the only person that got baptized after being married was himself. a little self righteous, don't ya think?. well, we did get baptized a year or so later but now we woke up to the org. and no longer associate. I remember before getting baptized, you know those questions you hvae to answer? well, an elder brought special informaiton for me from a watchtower. it was about STDs. how if I had them I need to keep distance from others in the cong. and sit all the way in the back. just becuase i wasn't raised a jw doesn't mean I had that disease. it was embarrassing, I wasn't comfortable talking about those things at the time i was only 18. My husband never got special information concering stds. I guess they decided that since he was raised a jw he never would have done anything. sick sick people.