My JW daughter getting married June 6th (page 2)

slimboyfat

I am sorry to hear that Gordon. It must have been difficult but it is good you have made a decision you can live with. No reasonable person could say you should be expected to attend the wedding on those terms, especially when you didn't even receive a proper invitation. I hope your daughter will come to see things differently in time.

Gayle

Wow, Gordy, I think it would speak, without words, quite greatly & strongly for you to go with your five non-JW children, to sit there all together, with love and closeness and smiles, not anything defiant or critical. Take pictures and try to act like this is not a problem for you, even though it will be difficult and remember it is "her" day, and you should share that day with her even if it is from a little distance. Your daughter will know you all were there for her.

Families are forever, I believe, even if there's some spots that don't go well and even though the Watchtower Society wrench families apart. It would be a sincere hope that maybe another time it could be different. We never know. It certainly would perplex her and all the others to see you and your other children there and in good spirit. You are her father, no matter, always and forever, and everyone will only see the elder that walks her down the aisle is only a 'fake' dad.

Please go and let us know if you do go. If you don't go, at least, send her card of your well wishes and unconditional love forever.

TheOldHippie

Congratulations on your daughter! How nice!

asilentone

Yes, pick a card for her, you just never know that you might reconnect with her one day!

C. T. Russell

Gordy, I have nothing to say... that sucks. Just stay in touch with her. Even its only once a year. Or four times a year. Doesnt matter, just stay in touch.

I am a semi-pro wedding crasher. So if you want me to break things up let me know....

Gordy

Thanks to you all for your kind words and concern.

Only those of us who have been JWs can really get their heads round this and the way they behave.

I did send a card today, one of my children who was going took it for me.

I wrote in it , that the only thing that I could send was something that I always had for her, and thats my love.

mouthy

That was excellent Gordy (((HUG))

The Almighty Homer

I wouldn't attend and wouldn't do a thing let her realize the action of her ways, the onus of guilt will be placed on her.

One thing about the JWS never play into their game or be an acting receipt of their conduct.

By the way very sorry to hear of this situation, what a corrupt cult to create this and many other situations.

But isn't reasons like this that many people leave it.

hamsterbait

If you try to contact her , you are a selfish worldly person who does not respect her beiefs.

If you don't then it proves how selfish and cruel worldly people are.

I remember an ex-catholic girl marrying and elder - none of her catholic family attended, as she was apostate. Yes - that is what they said.

The Jdubs were up in arms at their selfish spirit.

Let her stew. Show her the Tough love she showed you.

Actually so many of these family dramas read like something from a Transactional Analysis text book - I wonder if Berne's theories that fairy tales and folk stories equip us with models for understanding every dysfunctional family.

HB

Gordy

Just a couple of points that my non-JW children, two sons 21 and 29, who did go have told me.
No one hardly spoke to them either.

The wedding basically went ok.
My sons said that when the groom gave his speech he sort of skirted round the fact that the brides father was not there.
I was surprised when they told me who the "best man" was, a guy who I last heard of 2-3 years ago who had been disfellowshipped.
Must have been reinstated.

Also learnt that a guy who I had known for years as a JW and when I left was an Elder.
One who you would think would always be a JW.
The last I heard a year ago he still was, anyway it seems that he has left the JWs.
I wondered if this was because his brother who was an Elder in another congregation left the JWs, sometime ago, over the paedophile issue.
Plus a couple of others who were close to him have left also.

Anyway its all over now just have to see what happens in the future

My JW daughter getting married June 6th

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