When and should I tell my family I am pregnant? (page 4)

Quandry

I unfortunately agree with those that say to wait awhile. Right now, all attention is being showered on your sister, and her wedding. Pretty sure they would have further feelings of "you ruined the wedding" if you tell them now.

Just a side note. I know many people have somewhat different views on when to marry these days, and I will freely admit that I am "old school" on this one. One thing to consider, though. If something happens to your health, the baby's father is NOT legally able to make decisions for you, and your family may be called upon to do that. There are many advantages to being legally married.

Also, once you've been living together and a baby is on the way, the large wedding thing isn't going to be looked on the same way. A small wedding with those that truly love you attending can be beautiful and personal.

hope the best for you and baby.

mrsjones5

I like having a hubby and father instead of a boyfriend and baby daddy but that's me. Personally I would just get it done and elope.

Do what's good for your soon to be little family.

Josie

JWdaughter

If they aren't seeing you, don't bother telling them. I only say this because you know they will dump on you one way or the other. If they see you with a 2 year old, then introduce them. Yes, this is my spiteful nature coming out. Sorry:)

One thing to consider is protecting your child. We read here of so many JWs that want to shun their children and take over their grandchildren's spiritual lives. They may indeed decide to let you in enough to get in good with the baby. You really don't want that situation going on.

Congratuations. Babies are indeed a wonderful thing and I hope you and your baby and its father have a wonderful family.

Edited to say: After seeing other posts, do make sure that there is no legal way for your family to have control over you or the child medically in case of emergency. That might be reason enough to marry now if you are going to anyway. Legally, if not a big party.

mrsjones5

"Edited to say: After seeing other posts, do make sure that there is no legal way for your family to have control over you or the child medically in case of emergency. That might be reason enough to marry now if you are going to anyway. Legally, if not a big party."

Good point

mouthy

Having a kid will bind them together more than a marriage contract will whether they like it or not.

I agree with the above
But sad to say. I do know of couples in the same
boat. Who had the baby,then suddenly Daddy found another
he preferred & Mummy was left to bring up Jr on her own.

So seriously think of the consequences your deciding,But Good Luck
Whatever you do.

Scully

They aren't including you in their lives. I suggest that you do the same. Do you really want your child to have any JW influence in his/her life? I'm sure your boyfriend's family will be more than happy to include you and baby. Let them have the honour of being your baby's grandparents. Your parents and siblings have proven that they are not worthy of that role.

sweetface2233

This is contradictory to all the other that advice I've read, but if I were in your situation, I would show how happy and proud I am of the way that I chose to live my life. Don't live on the eggshells and behind masks in order to "keep the peace" w/ disapproving family members. If you aren't going to the meetings, then they are going to disapprove of your life, no matter how you are living it. The best thing for them is to see that, yes, you are happy. Be proud of your relationship, your baby, and your happiness. If you hide them, it gives the message that you are ashamed and that is just more fuel for their fire.

Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

WuzLovesDubs

You love your baby honey...and thats the only thing that matters. Dont wait for their approval because it wont be coming. But you dont want to play their game either so I suggest you wait until the baby is born. Named. And take a cute as a bug picture of her and send it along with a note. "You have a new granddaughter. She is much loved and I hope she gets to know her family." Love, FreeNHappy!!

Robdar

. Having a kid will bind them together more than a marriage contract will whether they like it or not.

The world is full of men who feel their only contribution to the life of their child was sperm. Obviously you do not know how difficult it can be to get child support from a dead beat baby daddy.

If I were this young woman, I would tell my parents I was pregnant and I would be respectful about it. Who knows, they may have a more important role in her child's life than her boyfriend will.

Barbie Doll

Dont wait for their approval because it wont be coming. But you dont want to play their game either so I suggest you wait until the baby is born. Named. And take a cute as a bug picture of her and send it along with a note. "You have a new granddaughter.

I agree with this. Don't tell the Family, while you are pregnant, they can upset you and you could lose your baby.

When and should I tell my family I am pregnant?

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