I have been SERIOUSLY dissed yesterday! (page 4)

WuzLovesDubs

Send them a reply saying that your wife cannot attend because she will be out of town that weekend but you will gladly represent the family and attend in her stead.

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jamiebowers

I would send a congratulaions card quoting Matthew 19:6

So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

and then add: My wife and I regard this scripture with the utmost importance.

I understand completely. I disassociated and my wife faded too. And we live less than one mile from our Kingdom Hall that's also shared with two additional congregations. And, we live on an small island with a total of eight congregations where I have given several talks in all eight along with assembly/convention parts. Approximately one in every 50 people that live here is a JW. Which is probably why I see JW's almost daily.

Many Witnesses say hello to my wife while shunning me when we are together (which is quite often considering that we own our own business). Like your wife, mine is just as much out (if not more) than I am. But it's rather comical to see how differently we are treated solely because of a different "official status".

One of the more pathetic encounters was when we went to a JW funeral for a 25 year old Witness (died in motorcycle accident) that was best friends with one of our kids. I didn't want to go, but did go anyway because this kid was really special. In fact he lived right next door to us and would never shun me at any time. Even invited my wife and I for dinner. I took him out fishing on my boat with our kids several times. etc etc

Anyway, I went to the funeral out of respect for him, for my kids and for his parents. I was very low key at the funeral and just wanted to get in and out.

But in both directions, though my wife was hanging on to me like we were glued for some reason, Witnesses would approach her (while we are hollding hands), stop to thank her for coming and say nice things to her all the while acting as if I was never there. The problem was I was right there.

She was ticked off far more than I was. And I was pretty amazed at just how programmed and strange they were acting. It was a young man's funeral. I have no probs with them shunning me but why stop and chat with and thank her when she is attached to me and act as if I was a wooden door post.

Another friend of ours died fairly young --in fact we were both elders together-- and we sent a card of condolences this time (no more sorry funerals for us after that first one). We eventually received a reply from his my wife thanking my wife exclusively for the card. Though the card was from both of us.

I could tell you another 50 stories like this over the past three years.

I am so used to it nowadays. When we see somebody that will still speak with her I just send her off to talk and go about my business.

This is why we can all spend just a little bit of time here and there exposing this religion as exactly what it is: A mind controlling, cult-like religious institution that makes great boasts while condemning all others not JW and nothing more. It can be so pathetic and ugly at times.

It makes our neighbors and non-JW friends want to throw up (so they say). Even my wife's local doctor has been getting into it with his JW patients now because my wife tells him all about some of these sorry and pathetic stories. He confronted one just two weeks ago and flatly told him no more literature PERIOD! He can't believe just how evil this religion can be to other human beings.

Another former JW bible study (that my wife chats with ) chewed out her former JW teacher (who my wife was best friends with) just this past week after hearing how she cuts us off along with her own daughter just because she is no longer a JW.

When people hear that I am shunned by all JW's and even lost a stepson (my wife's son though I raised him starting at six years old) solely because I stopped going due to conscientious reasons about blood, they are floored and always get extremely ticked off.

So my advice is to tell as many people as you can just what happened Jeff.

It almost always comes back and bites them in the A$$.

Vinny

AK - Jeff

I may send this RSVP

I have it all printed and ready to go - just not sure if I want to stir the shit that hard this week!

RSVP

I will be thrilled to attend your wedding to represent the AK Jeff family!

Though the invitation was addressed only to 'Mary', I am sure that must have been a careless oversight. Surely you would not have used such poor taste and ill-manners so as to intentionally ignore her husband of 35 years, especially in view of your scriptural understanding of our being 'one flesh'.

I would only ask that in future formal correspondence that you honor the dignity of our marriage by addressing my dear wife with proper ettiquitte and Christian decorum, as Mrs. AK Jeff. She has carried that designation with pride for many years. We will of course honor your marriage in the same manner, and will never address any formal correspondence to 'Gemma'.

I look forward to your wedding and reception.

Sincerely yours,

Mr. AK Jeff

mrsjones5

Yep, I'm sure that will stir some shit but I'm also sure you can handle it Jeff.

Josie

Jadeen

Actually, according to wedding etiquette, the future bride writes the wedding invites and gets a list of people from the groom's side. It's very much possible that your s-i-l wrote that list with only your wife's name on there. So, the couple to be might not be responsible for snubbing you. I remember when I wrote them out for my husband's side, I just wrote what was listed and didn't bother questioning the names.

AK - Jeff

The envelope was return addressed with the Groom's address.

My SIL [the grooms mother ] is very much in charge of everything she can get her nose into - so I am relatively sure she is the one who insisted that my name was left off the invititation.

Additionally, the wedding is being held hundreds of miles away - so they prob never expected anyone to actually attend from here. They might be fishing for a gift also. But they clearly intended to diss me. Of that I am positive.

Jeff

Mary

Jeff, before I even read your RSVP, I was going to suggest that on the RSVP you simply write that "Mr. & Mrs. A.K. Jeff will attend".

Nothing more, nothing less.

Let your SIL shit in her spiritual drawers as she tries to figure a way out of that one.

undercover

...I was going to suggest that on the RSVP you simply write that "Mr. & Mrs. A.K. Jeff will attend".

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Let your SIL shit in her spiritual drawers as she tries to figure a way out of that one.

LOL...good one, Mary

AK - Jeff

This is even better, Mary. Just the Family Apostate is coming to dinner!

Wifey just came in a few minutes ago and read the RSVP on my desk, and seems unfazed by my intent. So I think I shall put in post this afternoon.

Jeff

I have been SERIOUSLY dissed yesterday!

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