Confessed my Doubts to my Wife

by cantleave 58 Replies latest jw experiences

  • leavingwt
    leavingwt

    I know that this was a huge step for you. I hope it works out well.

    -LWT

  • treadnh2o
    treadnh2o

    Very similar to the conversation I had with my wife. Even though she could not argue some of the same issues you brought up with yours, I now think she feels the need to be "strong in the truth". The positive for me is she has accepted having an "unbelieving mate".

    Expect the next few months to be rough. But the inner peace of not living a lie or being controlled by a cult is such a relief.

    All the best,

    Tread

  • darkl1ght3r
    darkl1ght3r

    I see significant cause for optimism in your case. I confessed my doubts gradually over the course of 8 or 9 months and never got responses like that.

    OtWO said, "You will not be sorry you did this, regardless of the fallout."

    Very true my friend. I dealt with a good amount of fallout in my situation. But now that I'm on the other side of it, it's hard to describe how glad I am to be free from the claws of that monster. Regardless of what happens, you're entering a whole new world. And you're FREE to make the best and most of it.

    Good Luck!!!

  • ldrnomo
    ldrnomo

    If you do the study you talked about. Just go real easy at it, don't try to make her understand it your way. It will happen it's like a good stew, the longer it simmers the better it tastes.

    LD

  • leavingwt
    leavingwt

    Please remember, that when speaking to her, try to avoid triggering her cult (defensive) personality. If she goes into cult mode, she will shut down her reasoning capability and it will be purely emotional response.

  • skeeter1
    skeeter1

    And, the light shines on another household.

  • Altar ego
    Altar ego

    As far as I am concerned, this is the biggest of my concern : "do you believe that mankind is only 6000 years old?"

    I would LOVE for someone to PROVE TO ME with FACTS, mankind is only 6000 years old. PLEASE. So I can go back to my meetings.

    This is my biggest "stumbling stone".

  • Scarred for life
    Scarred for life

    I think it sounds like a really great start. Best of luck to you in the coming weeks.

  • stillin
    stillin

    I'm jealous! My wife would jump my case with a 45 minute talk, complete with scriptures that so completely corner me that I just have to put my sorry little tail between my legs and run for cover.

    I'm in a much more subtle mode, if you haven't guessed.

  • sspo
    sspo

    Good job, take your time with her, she's on the right track.

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