And when I say that nothing works, that is not totally true.
My wife is missing from some meetings, actually missed the last C.O. visit and part of the one before for personal activity out of town.
Although she is really the same person at the KH that she always was, I am confident that "our" brothers and sisters consider her weak because of her husband and treat her a bit like Swine Flu at the Hall. She is visiting a different foreign-language cong. "to learn the language" and I hate that she goes to more meetings when she misses some, but she will learn the language. From all evidences, it seems she is making new friends of JW's that do not know Brother OTWO because the old friends are treating her differently.
She is full of contrary beliefs/actions. She is so into how important education is, but supports the flimsiest of WT sayings that "college is not for everyone" and how many can just get some trade school. (It's all BS for her dissonance, she focuses on the few who couldn't make it in college in order to see some merit in WT doctrine.) She is concerned about retirement "in this system of things" and she goes to lunches and gatherings of co-workers or people involved in the same "secular" activities that she/we are into.
She just won't even consider that WTS is not "the truth." It is slowly (very slowly) becoming less relevant in her life, but WTS is still there for her. I am concerned that in the last year, her mother got baptized (attended for years, finally retired from Babylon the Great so she got baptized) and her sibling got reinstated (out for over 14 years).