purps: That is the way it was explained to me too. It sounds like your brother's death was within the last ten years, huh? My condolences.
I attempted to take my life almost two years ago. I almost got away with it. I was in the hospital for 10 days. Anyways, it prompted me to do alot of research as to the JW and GB beliefs. I was appalled at the 1970's articles that pretty much told you that such a person was a murderer. It was like no one understood me. I was taking my own life because I was sure that Jehovah wanted me gone, because I was such a huge failure to him. Years later they understood it as an illness, which I was glad to see. It made me wonder if they changed their views because someone close to them committed suicide. I hate to speculate there.
But what I did learn is that someone who does commit suicide cannot have the funeral in the KH. That tells me that they still have mixed feelings on the issue. I asked who would have handled my funeral, and my Dad said it would be an elder, but had to be outside the KH. Not too comforting. It just validated the wicked feeling that I carried of myself.