Spiked one. Are ya on facebook? This girl you have a bit of a crush on, perhaps you could drop her a line and say "hello", if she herself is on?
IF it is NOT wise for a man to be ALONE with a woman he's NOT married to
by Spike Tassel 275 Replies latest watchtower scandals
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bohm
spike: im not into the rules and regulations, but if you conscience allows it in any way, i say go for it! your a gentleman, you wont make a fool out of yourself, so whats the worst thing that can happend? that she say no? even in that case - 10 years from now when you look back on your life and remember this time, do you want to remember that you dared tell your love, or that you spend yet another night answering yet another wood-headed atheist on yet another noahs-ark thread? keep us posted!
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Jadeen
Spike, have you thought about going to a different congregation? It sounds like the elders in your current one are unwilling to understand your condition and are lacking in sympathy. You also would get the chance to meet other lovely ladies and get a chance to practice socializing with women.
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Spike Tassel
It's not socialising I want. It's reading the current literature out loud back and forth with someone, and bouncing ideas off of each other, for mutual spiritual growth.
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purplesofa
Spike,
I feel for ya, that does not sound like much fun.
Don't cha want to have some fun?
purps
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Son of Man
Are you a male passed the "bloom of youth"? And is the female as well? In "proper" circumstances you have every right to mingle with a female that is not married to another. If you are not considered to be a J.W. according to "their" rules and the female is, more times than none, she would not pursue you. It is written that a Christian should not fellowship with a "nonbeliever". Do you consider yourself to be a worldy man with desires of this world? In that case GOD would not allow you to fellowship with a Chritian female. If you have read the bible, I am sure you are completely aware of what GOD requires.
Have you even been with a worldy female? I have met many and trust me, they are not guided by sound practices. They tend to make up their own guidelines as they go along. Many people in the world are "selfish" and tell many lies. This does not apply to all people of course. Just because they do not lebel thenselves as Christians, they might be such according to the way they live their lives. However, these people are few and far between. In GOD's law, once you and a female join together in relations, you are married and should treat it as such. It is only necessary to sign a marriage certificate where it is the law of that land. In the United States when two people live in the same household as mates they are married by "common law".
Approach the female and after explaining your cisrumstances see if she is interested in joining with you in a relationship. GOD will judge you in the end despite what any other person says. So live your life accordingly in whatever way you have chosen. We all have "free will" until it is removed from us in The Kingdom of GOD......have a great night.
Estephan
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Jadeen
Spike, reading with someone, talking with someone about your spirituality is socialising.
Anyway, getting back to your first question on how can a man and woman get to know each other while never being alone together- Growing up, my parents would chaperone some of the couples in the congregation. The young couple would usually sit in the living room by themselves and talk. Our living room was on the main floor and had large doorways to the dining room and hallway. So while they had the privacy to do their own study and discussions together, someone else would be in the next room or walking by the living room and there was no chance of any hanky-panky going on.
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Spike Tassel
It's not socialising I want. It's reading the current literature out loud back and forth with someone, and bouncing ideas off of each other, for mutual spiritual growth.
What I mean to say is: It's not sexual activity I'm interested in ever getting to. Rather, I'm looking for fellowship, companionship, spiritual harmony, principled love, intellectual curiosity, mutual interest in solving the issues of life together, a complement, someone whom I can validate and who can validate me, a soul mate.
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WuzLovesDubs
Whoa dude...that is a TALL order for anybody to qualify for. Why dont you try the JW singles websites? Put what you are looking for out there and see if you get any takers? You might like to add walking on the beach or reading good novels or something else besides the study of WT propaganda. Otherwise I cant see how it would be very appealing for anyone to apply for the job.
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blondie
Based on the title, does that include your mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, daughter, granddaughter, niece? I was told that.