What does it mean to be truly repentant?

by keyser soze 11 Replies latest jw experiences

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  keyser soze

  Your sil knows how to manipulate the system. She apparently is in love with another man or doesn't want to be married to your brother anymore, so she committed adultery to get a "scriptural" divorce and still remain a jw.

  I believe the latter to be the case. She certainly wasn't in love with the other man, given the fact she had just met him that weekend. I think another issue is that she was much stronger spiritually than him. He was inactive, and rarely attended meetings. To a certain extent, she was viewed as having an unbelieving mate, and was probably treated differently on that basis. Had he been an elder, or even a MS, the outcome might have been different.
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  WTWizard

  In the witless world, true "repentance" is not really true. One has to stop doing what is "wrong" (which may or may not actually be bad), and do things to develop a strong hatred for it. This is sometimes possible for things like smoking, using drugs, or other things that are not naturally appealing. However, for things that are inherently appealing, true repentance may well be impossible since it goes against the way people were made.

  In fact, genuinely true repentance means going after the root source of the problem and solving it (and the problem may not even be the behavior). One would want to prevent the problems that the act causes--often this means getting things out in the open and working from there. And, very often, going after the root of the problem means finding out that stagnation and the rut traps we are in is at the very root of the problem. Fix that, and the behavior will stop in due time, without having to develop any unhealthy hatred for the behavior (you would, however, develop a natural hatred for the stagnation trap leading to it, and would not want to return to it unless absolutely forced to).