Simple Living and Lifestyle Choices

by daniel-p 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • daniel-p
    daniel-p

    I think a lot about how I spend my life and what I might be able to do to get more out of it. The problem, however, is that change is hard.

    I'm not content with how society wants us to spend our time and money: getting iPhones, going out to eat constantly, going on weekend vacations, buying things on the internet, watching TV, etc.

    I try to analyze what I do... but like I said, it's hard to change it.

    My life consists of the following:

    Waking up: I get up in the morning, my wife has already left for work/school, I get my morning cup of tea and eat a bowl of cereal. While I wake up, i sit down at the computer and check my email. I fiddle around on the Internet for abuot 15 minutes until I'm fully awake. I get ready for work, usually only doing the absolute minimum to walk out the door with self-respect. If i don't have to shave that say, I won't. I used to dress nice to go to work, but these days it's shorts, flip-flops, and an old shirt. I just don't care anymore.

    At work: I ride the bus, try to get irritated with the chronicly homeless and crazies, and then arrive at the office. I sit down, turn on my computer, and check my email. I then start "working" which usually consists of one monitor of actual work, and the other monitor of personal email, JWD, or some other blog/forum I routinely visit, or the news. Depending on the day, I do anywhere from 8 hours to 0 hours of actual work. Sometimes I have to get something out the "door" by the end of the day and I actually enjoy working hard and getting things done. It's the days when I'm not productive that kill me.

    Going home: In any case, I go home around 4:30-5:00, check my (real) mail, and then begins my favorite part of the day. I do some cleaning of the house, getting things orderly, turn on the radio and listen to NPR, and then maybe start cooking. By then my wife is home and we cook together. Alternaively, before cooking, we might go on a run/walk up through a nice 3-mile pathway near our apartment. Then we get back and start cooking. That's the absolute BEST part of my day. After dinner, we usually go over to the flat screen and watch a TV show on the Internet, like House, Mary Tyler Moore, or This American Life. Then it's pretty much done. At night, she falls asleep within 5 minutes, and I stay awake in bed, read, and then toss and turn for the next few hours.

    What the hell am i missing? I have a cushy job, i make a decent living, i have a very easy and relatively carefree life. But it's driving me insane.

    For one, i spend WAY too much time on the internet doing the most mundane things ever. Like Facebook. What a complete waste of time. Email is good, but general internet surfing is a huge waste of my time and energy. But it's hard because my lifestyle is completely built around not being productive at home, not having any space to be productive or creative. Just eat, sleep, work, and live your life on the Internet.

    My ideal lifestyle would be to live and work at home, making things, growing a garden, cooking with fresh foods, working around a ranch/farm, going into town once in a while, but most of the time just keeping to my own business.

    I just don't think city/suburban living is for me.

    So what about your life? What kind of lifestyle do you have? And is it simple enough? Are you happy?

  • VIII
    VIII

    Volunteer. It is amazing how many nice, caring people you'll meet.

    Plus, you will be giving back to the community. There are so many places that need basic help. A soup kitchen. Habitat for Humanity. Goodwill. Salvation Army.

    Meeting new people at these places is amazingly eye opening and very enriching.

    Or, you could have children and totally change your lifestyle.

    Edited to add because I didn't answer your questions:

    I have an iPhone, TV, home, etc. All of that *stuff* makes me happy. I like technology. I also love being outside. I love cars. I love driving fast. I love animals. I love eating animals.

    Is my life simple? No, not really. I have to drive to work. The public transportation is the wrong direction. I have to pay my bills and save for retirement. That is the nature of today's life. I would rather live farther out in the country, however, the property is more expensive.

    Overall, I'm very happy with my life.

  • undercover
    undercover
    but these days it's shorts, flip-flops, and an old shirt. I just don't care anymore.

    Now I picture danny-p as "The Dude"

    I have a pretty cushy job...that is currently really, really slow...leaving me way too much time on the Internet playing around. That's why I'm here so much lately.

    I've gotten to where I like coming home, fixing a cocktail before dinner, fixing dinner with the wife and enjoying dinner together. We use to eat out a lot but we're trying to eat healthier, so we eat at home more. I've gotten to where I like it...a lot.

    We still eat out more than we should but more for convenience when my wife works late. We still enjoy hitting pubs, clubs and bars on weekends but I find that I'm getting tired of the nightlife downtown. I'm just as happy sitting on the porch with a glass of wine and the ipod boombox playing some favorite tunes.

    I like where we're at. It's not perfect. There are times I'm bored, there are times I'm stressed, but I look forward to hearth and home. I have lots of chores/projects that don't get done as timely as they should. That bugs me that I'm not more motivated at times. I let more pleasurable things get in the way when at home. That's why I know I could never work from home. I need the seperation from home and work. If I worked from home, I'd never get anything done. My home office is too close to the liquor cabinet for one...

  • daniel-p
    daniel-p

    Now I picture danny-p as "The Dude"

    I'm on my way, undercover, i'm on my way. Although I could never grow as good a 'stache as he has.

    I like where we're at. It's not perfect. There are times I'm bored, there are times I'm stressed, but I look forward to hearth and home. I have lots of chores/projects that don't get done as timely as they should. That bugs me that I'm not more motivated at times. I let more pleasurable things get in the way when at home. That's why I know I could never work from home. I need the seperation from home and work. If I worked from home, I'd never get anything done. My home office is too close to the liquor cabinet for one...

    I think I could work from home, as long as it wasn't something completely detached from daily life, like just sitting at the computer, telecommuting or whatnot. I mean like having some kind of home business where I could involve the whole family someday, working with my kids and teaching them along the way. I think that would be ideal.

  • snowbird
    snowbird

    I would love to run a K-12 farming academy where the kids could learn outside in a natural setting, and at the same time pick up on all the skills they'll need for making their way in the world.

    I would make sure they're taught to think critically, with mathematics, history, and science taught from the beginning of their schooling to the ending.

    Sylvia

  • PSacramento
    PSacramento

    Maybe you need a hobby dude.

    While I don't view it as a hobby, I have been doing martial arts for over 30 years and even though the kids have curtailed my time for myself tremendously ( and I wouldn't have it any other way), its still there for me.

    Its the one thing I do that is "uniquely me".

  • daniel-p
    daniel-p

    I would love to run a K-12 farming academy where the kids could learn outside in a natural setting, and at the same time pick up on all the skills they'll need for making their way in the world.

    I would make sure they're taught to think critically, with mathematics, history, and science taught from the beginning of their schooling to the ending.

    That sounds pretty cool, Sylvia. Learning outside is, I think, the height of creative awareness.

  • daniel-p
    daniel-p

    Maybe you need a hobby dude.

    While I don't view it as a hobby, I have been doing martial arts for over 30 years and even though the kids have curtailed my time for myself tremendously ( and I wouldn't have it any other way), its still there for me.

    Its the one thing I do that is "uniquely me".

    Physical activity does make a huge difference in my contentment.

  • snowbird
    snowbird

    When I attended the little, two-room country school as a child, one of my favorite teachers always taught outside, weather permitting, of course.

    She was a joy to behold!

    I believe the Greek sages, Socrates, Aristotle, Plato, et al made a point of holding outdoor teaching sessions.

    Sylvia

  • undercover
    undercover
    Physical activity does make a huge difference in my contentment.

    An idea...start an exercise routine. I used to hate to exercise and I was lucky I didn't need too for years and years. But age catches up. I exercise almost every weekday now. When I miss several days I can tell a difference in my mood and energy level.

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