You Used to be a Jehovah's Witness? What an Ugly Human You Are! (until you get a glimpse of the beauty)

by AllTimeJeff 13 Replies latest jw friends

  • SixofNine
    SixofNine
    To me, Susan Boyle is a metaphor to how we ex JW's sometimes perceive others as looking at us, because of our past. Or even worse, how we sometimes view ourselves. Sometimes, we judge ourselves only on the ugliness of our JW past, and not how we really are.

    To the extent some ex-JW's have inferiority complexes, the problems mostly stem from their family and/or mental issues, not their religion, imo. We can know this because very many exJW's don't view themselves this way, and because so many people of other religions do have inferiority issues.

    I'm not saying that some ex-JW's don't believe that "the world" views them as flawed because of their JW past, but the witness religion certainly didn't put that in their head.

    And as for that little minx Susan Boyle, I don't know what the take away from that sort of stuff should be. I certainly feel "it" (inspiration? inspired to what?) when I see a Susan Boyle or a Paul Potts knock it out of the park, but the truth is they are only in my scope of awareness because of a tv show and the fact that they have something most people don't have. To that extent, they are exactly like a beautiful, sexy, actress.

    I think I know why Paul Potts and Susan Boyle inspired tears when I first saw their performance: I was feeling empathy for their success, knowing it was that much sweeter and karmic because they are such unlikely looking people.

  • dinah
    dinah

    Good thoughts, Jeff.

    Susan Boyle blew me away. But you're right. She would have never had a chance in the biz because it is all about how you look.

    I've never thought of myself as ugly on the outside. I'm an attractive woman, getting a little old, but I still look good. Now the INSIDE? Yeah, there I think I'm ugly.

    Beauty in the Borg is a curse. It makes the elders watch you a little closer, especially if you have an unbelieving Dad. It also draws attention from worldly boys who we arent supposed to associate with, but not the boys in the hall because you are not trusted.

    I had to work on the inside. And really, looking back, I was a warm and loving person. Now, let the rug of your faith get yanked out from under you............I became a bitter, vindictive bitch. At least I'm over that part now too. So, all in all, I like where I am now.

  • beksbks
    beksbks
    To the extent some ex-JW's have inferiority complexes, the problems mostly stem from their family and/or mental issues, not their religion, imo. We can know this because very many exJW's don't view themselves this way, and because so many people of other religions do have inferiority issues.

    I have to disagree with you here Six. It kind of depends on what kind of JW you were. My family was "weak", never ever good enough, and always rather ashamed. We had close relatives who were very very "strong", which only made it worse. I was horribly insecure, and finally saw a counselor. We discussed the fact that I certainly did not fit into "the world", but didn't fit in with the Witnesses either.

    Now of course I realize I was just better than all of them

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5

    This topic reminds me of a song by Christina Aguilera:

    You Are Beautiful

    Every day is so wonderful
    And suddenly, i saw debris
    Now and then, I get insecure
    From all the pain, I'm so ashamed

    I am beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can't bring me down
    I am beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can't bring me down
    So don't you bring me down today

    To all your friends, you're delirious
    So consumed in all your doom
    Trying hard to fill the emptiness
    The piece is gone left the puzzle undone
    That's the way it is

    You are beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can't bring you down
    You are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can't bring you down
    Don't you bring me down today...

    No matter what we do
    (no matter what we do)
    No matter what they say
    (no matter what they say)
    When the sun is shining through
    Then the clouds won't stay

    And everywhere we go
    (everywhere we go)
    The sun won't always shine
    (sun won't always shine)
    But tomorrow will find a way
    All the other times

    'cause we are beautiful no matter what they say
    Yes, words won't bring us down, oh no
    We are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can't bring us down
    Don't you bring me down today

    Don't you bring me down today

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdYQX8J-FFo

    Thank you Jeff for reminding us of our beauty

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