My sisters partner died last night

wobble

My sister has pioneered since shortly after she left School in the mid-sixties. She has had the same pioneer partner ,and shared a house with her,for over thirty years.

Last night her long time friend died. She had not enjoyed the best of health in recent years, but at 59, this is a devastating shock to my sister.

The problem is I don't really know what to say to her, she knows I don't believe the WT's view on life after death, so I suppose I shall just have to provide a listening ear. To complicate matters my sister lives in a different country to me.

Anyway, any thoughts on how I can help my sister at this sad time will be appreciated.

love

Wobble

Priest73

My sister has pioneered since shortly after she left School in the mid-sixties. She has had the same pioneer partner ,and shared a house with her,for over thirty years.

Tell her you're sorry to hear of her loss.

yknot

Ditto Priest and let her talk a bit about how she feels and her partner.

Ask if she needs any help....... just be available to her as a strong shoulder and sypathetic ear until her grieving passes.

You don't have to discuss afterlife or theology to console her, probably not much more than a routine phone call inquiring about her during the sad time. If she brings up afterlife/theology just let her talk it through, this is part of her letting go.

Maybe suggest a visit too.

Saoirse

I'm sorry to hear about your sister's friend. That must be quite a loss for her.

You don't have to say anything other than offer your sympathy and to tell her she's in your thoughts. Beyond that, just provide a listening ear. That's usually the biggest need that a grieving person has. It's not the time to argue doctrine or theology. If she says anything about the the New order, just politely listen. You don't have to agree to or affirm anything she says.

cantleave

Sorry to hear that. It is so hard when you realise your belif system no longer reflects those around you. I went to a Funeral the other day and just sat there during the talk thinking " this is all BS".

BTW I sent you an email.

compound complex

Dear Wobble,

I'm sorry to hear the sad news, remembering how important my pioneer partner was to me ...

Love,

CoCo

Out at Last!

Just try to be there for her emotionally, even though some distance seperates the two of you. Let her know that you are there for support anytime.

wobble

Thank you everybody who replied,your advice,and sympathy, is much appreciated. It is so much more difficult now,because I feel she may not trust what I say because I have left the JW's

Anyhow, I shall do my best to be a comfort and support to her.

Many thanks again,

Love

Wobble

wantstoleave

Im so sorry to hear this :( Just 'be there' for your sister as much as possible. You could even send her a bunch of flowers and a little card to say you're sorry she lost her dear friend. You don't have to go into religion, or beliefs at all. Just be a comfort for her. Im sure she'll appreciate it :)

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