My Worldly" Aunt...

jamiebowers

called to let me know that she had it out with a jw relative about her nasty attitude. My dear auntie was so worked up that she said to the jw, "Not one jw I've ever known is happy!"

It's not as funny in written form as it was to hear her exclaiming this over the phone. She's such a nice lady and has tried really hard to take the place of my mom who shuns me. She tries so hard to understand all of the bullshit wrapped up in the Watchtower cult, and I feel sorry for her. I've encouraged her to get on JWN to read about the experiences of others, but she said she couldn't take it. She said she can hardly stand to know about my situation let alone thousands of others who have been victimized by the WB&TS.

My question for you fine folks is: Why can't the rank and file see what a bad witness the df'ing doctrine is? I've been shunned for about 21 years by my mom, and it seems to hurt my aunt more than it does me. I've heard similar stories about "worldly" relatives of other exjws.

GLTirebiter

My dear auntie was so worked up that she said to the jw, "Not one jw I've ever known is happy!"

I couldn't say it any better than she did. Watchtower doctrine is so pessimistic: "The world is ending, and unless you give up life as you know it to do exactly as we say our god will make you die a horrible death, and even if you do you're still not going to heaven!" That doesn't leave much to smile about, does it?

lisavegas420

My worldly Aunt told me she didn't understand the JW thing, but that my dad was her only living sibling. She said, I can't talk to him about you, because I'm afraid of being shunned.

lisa

carla

Your dear Aunt's reaction is the same as everybody who I have ever tried to explain jw's to! I tell them they don't have to believe me but come here or any ex site and see for themselves. They can't bear to because they are afraid the next time a jw comes to their door they will go off on them. Jw's disgust normal, moral, ethical people once they know about them.

cantleave

It was the shunning that caused me to wake up and start questioning. When a friend of mine dropped his daughter when she need him most, told his wife to remove her daughter's number from her mobile phone and has said he will change his will to disinherit her, I was mortified. His daughter was trying to get out of a marriage that was never going to work, the only way she could was by having an affair. Even then her husband didn't want to let her go so she had to do it again which resulted in her being deemed unrepentant and DF'd. Her father is usually such a reasonable man, I couldn't believe his hardline attitude, which is due only to his following "theorcra(p)tic Direction".

jamiebowers

GL Tirebiter, that's exactly what my husband said.

lisavegas20, that's so sad.

Carla said:

Jw's disgust normal, moral, ethical people once they know about them.

Aint it the truth!

cantleave, it's good to hear that shunning is what woke you up. I hope lots of others follow you out.

Out at Last!

Which relative? Last time I heard your mother was not talking to her, but there are so many more to choose to be angry at.

babygirl30

This same scenario JUST happened to me a few weeks ago:

My wordly aunt and I were emailing back and forth when she asked how my mom's surgery went (my dad is her brother) and I told her that I had NO IDEA my mom even had surgery!! Then I proceeded to explain (in a non-biased manner) the whole DF situation and how my folks have made the decision to shun me...she was disgusted, to say the least. It led to an open discussion about JW's and how I was treated by them, and her exact words were "No God that WE (all my aunts/uncles AND my dad) were raised to love would EVER require a parent to choose a religion over their own child!"

Apparently after that she spoke to my dad (on her own initiative) - at which her response to me AFTER the conversation was "I had no idea my brother was THIS stubborn. I would expect this from your mom but NOT my brother _ I am so sorry." The 'worldly' family never liked my mom...always thought was cooky (cause of her overly zealous JW actions) and they feel that SHE is the one pressuring my dad to shun me. She reassured me that they all (aunts/uncles) still love me and are there for me. Either way, all my aunts/uncles never cared for JWs and this situation - me being shunned and DF'd - leaves an even worse 'witness' with them. But according to my parents, TELLING my aunt about my situation brings reproach on Jehovah's name?!

I FEEL for you...cause I'm in the same situation. But isn't it amazing how clear-thinking, rational non JW human beings (family or not) can see how cruel and biased DF'ing is?

jamiebowers

Which relative? Last time I heard your mother was not talking to her, but there are so many more to choose to be angry at.

Discussed on the phone with you tonight.

But isn't it amazing how clear-thinking, rational non JW human beings (family or not) can see how cruel and biased DF'ing is?

A few years ago while organizing a family reunion I phoned one aunt who is particularly outspoken. As soon as I said my name, she screeched into the phone, "Your moher is an asshole!" OMG, I almost dropped the phone...this lady is in her 80's, and I hadn't seen her for probably 35 years, but apparently she'd heard about my df'ing. She then went on to tell me that when jws come to her door, she chases them out of her yard with a broom.

Wasanelder Once

JW's never proclaim to the public that they DF family who disagree with the doctrines. They focus on how they DF those who are wicked to protect the congregation, drug abusers, molesters (yes some have been DF'd), thieves, adulterers etc. That part sounds great to the uninformed. Heck, we fell for it. It's important that we inform the public that DF'ing is a form of leverage used against free thinkers and those who question. W.Once

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