My Worldly" Aunt...

by jamiebowers 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  flipper

  JAMIE- I'm glad you have your aunt to be close to. You asked the question, " Why can't the rank and file see what a bad witness the DFing doctrine is ? " It's because each individual JW is trained through " cult mind control" to think that DFing is approved by God and the WT society puts a spin on it that Jehovah only disciplines those " he loves " to bring them back to their senses. Ick. I get creeped out just WRITING that ! But these witness people are all drones taught to obey ANYTHING the WT society says is from God. In the rank and file JW's eyes WT society=Jehovah.

  It's really pretty sick and twisted. Peace out, mr. Flipper
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  finding my way

  I too have a few relatives on my mom's side who all think she's mean for treating me the way she does, but they still don't seem to fully "get it". My Grandma always asks me "have you talked to your Mom?" and I have to explain over and over that as much as I might like too, she will not talk to me. She wanted to give her a piece of her mind, but I asked her not too, because I don't want her relationship to be rough with my Mom when she's in her eighties and may not be around a whole lot longer. Plus, I wouldn't want to make my Mom feel like she's more in the right from all the "persecution" coming her way.

  My Aunt sort of avoids the subject but has alllowed me to use her as an emergency contact and I know I can call her whenever I need a "Mom" even though we don't really relate emotionally very well. I think I'm too emotional for her.

  What's really sort of interesting (hypocritical) is how my Mother will visit my Mom, Aunt and her cousins then go out drinking with all her old town (640 population so they all know her) till the wee hours in the morning. (what a good witness) Once she drunk texted me and then acted like she hadn't the next day when I tried to figure out what in the world her texts meant..

  I think there's hope for her yet

  Seriously though. Regarding your actual question, I'm with Flipper. I remember when I was a rank and file and even for 3 years after being disfellowshipped, I thought the shunning was out of love. I just felt like I was bad and was confused as to why I couldn't fix myself and feel close to God. I didnt feel comfortable even talking with other Df'd people. I now see as it as sort of a blessing in disguise. I don't know how many more years I would have devoted to the Watchtower if I wouldn't have made the "mistakes" I did to be kicked out. Also, the way in which the JC handled it seemed okay and "loving" at the time, but as I began to see more clearly I saw how messed up it all was. This helped when I started sorting things out in my head. Not saying it's a good thing.. just trying to remember what it was to think like a rank and file member about Dfing.

  ~fmy
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  babygirl30

  I remember when I was a rank and file and even for 3 years after being disfellowshipped, I thought the shunning was out of love. I just felt like I was bad and was confused as to why I couldn't fix myself and feel close to God. I didnt feel comfortable even talking with other Df'd people. I now see as it as sort of a blessing in disguise. I don't know how many more years I would have devoted to the Watchtower if I wouldn't have made the "mistakes" I did to be kicked out. Also, the way in which the JC handled it seemed okay and "loving" at the time, but as I began to see more clearly I saw how messed up it all was. This helped when I started sorting things out in my head. Not saying it's a good thing.. just trying to remember what it was to think like a rank and file member about Dfing.

  That is exactly how I USED to feel...like getting kicked OUT of the 1 place I counted on HELPING me - was an act of 'love' on Jehovah's part! BOO HISS!!!! I'm sorry, but being out NOW and reasoning on that statement, it really shows no compassion or real love on Jehovah's part. My situation was really messed up (involved abuse) - so - that meant that Jehovah loved ME so much that he disposed of ME, yet allowed my abuser to continue in his org as if nothing happened - accepted by all? Or that Jehovah is the kindof God that would deem my LIFE worthless enough to toss me out of his cong despite there being threats on my life and my safety? WOW! Even sadder is that we didnt see all of this till we were out...and felt it was ok to finally think for ourselves. Makes me sad that I treated other DF'd JWs this way when I was still in the org - ignoring them, judging them, looking at them as if it was what they deserved because it was supposedly Jehovah's way of showing 'love' to that person. UGH!