Sisters crying in the kitchen/lobby

by highdose 34 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Diva

  Sorry, I have to admit I was a lobby crier in my dub days.

  I cried on the night they announced that a very good friend had been disfellowshipped. I was so shocked and distraught at the news that I had to leave the meeting early. I went home and text her to say that I would always loved her - have never spoken to her since - that was 4 years ago!!

  I cried when they announced that a dear sister who was absolutely lovely had died suddenly earlier that day. They told everyone just before the last song and I was so choked up I couldn't sing ,so went out the back to cry.

  Certain songs used to bring me to tears, mainly because they were the songs we sang at my dads funeral.

  I cried loads of times after my first m/c. I just used to sit there like a zombie, listening to the constant droning from the platform. When I couldn't take it anymore I would go out the back to cry.
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  Finally-Free

  When you consider the way JWs thrive on gossip, slander, and character assassination it's not surprising that a lot of people cried at meetings. JWs live to lash out. If they're not lashing out at "this system" and its religions, governments, education, entertainment, etc. then they lash out at one another. I've seen many sisters run out of meetings crying because someone said something cruel to them. It happened to my ex quite often too.

  A sense of self worth that is entirely dependent on one's standing in the congregation can be a very fragile thing.

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  logic

  Everytime I had to go to the meetings I felt like crying. And as the meeting draged on And the boredom

  was causing great pain and discomfort I felt like crying.

  Yes we had our fair share of criers There was one who cryed everytime she commented. Another

  cried when other people commented.

  Then of course there are those who cry because they are so happy to be in the spiritual paradise of Gods

  Kingdom.
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  chickpea

  i think it is fair to say lots of women at
  the KH i attended had occasional lapses...

  hard not to when you live in the fear of
  judgment with every breath you draw,
  compounded with the misery of impossible
  standards and unmet expectations....
  hell's bells i might just start bawling now!

  there was a "sister" with significant
  mental health issues, including a
  crushing depression.... the well-meaning
  but totally WRONG JWs would counsel TM her to
  "wait on jehovah" and "make paradise real"

  she made it real all right.... blew her head off
  with a high caliber pistol she borrowed from
  a neighbour.... to "scare off pests" so she
  could get some peace.....

  seems suicide ran in the family
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  Finally-Free

  Jehovah's happy people.

  W
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  nelly136

  they should have been joyful they even had a kitchen!

  us kids were mainly moved to tears in the bland toilet.

  little wonder the kh's had a universal dead ground feel to them.
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  daniel-p

  This thread is a perfect example of why women need religion more than men. So you can get together and be emotional. Of course, nothing wrong with that, it's just sort of gay. [im kidding, kidding]
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  jamiebowers

  I didn't know of many criers at the kh, but then again I didn't dare leave my seat after the meeting started for any reason for fear of the beating I would get from my nut job jw husband once we got home. But I did know that several sisters had problems with depression, panic attacks, and suicidal thoughts. Women have so much to lose in the borg...independence, their children, confidence, etc.
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  daniel-p

  Women have so much to lose in the borg...independence, their children, confidence, etc.

  I agree. Being a JW sister is about complete subjugation, to the elders, dufus husbands, and even microphone handlers and literature servants. Doing most of the door to door work, and yet having no semblance of authority or management over their own ministry.

  Reminds me of Thoreau's saying about most people leading lives of quiet desperation.

  I have a feeling most JW women are in a continual state of cracking apart, being held together only by each other and their own savage guilt.
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  Mickey mouse

  That's a good summation daniel-p