by Simon 50 Replies latest jw friends
simon-
its unfortunate that religion brings more stress to a situation that is already filled with enough emotional stress for everyone involved. ive been in a similar situation with my mother when she was sick before she passed.........hopefully all involved can drop the jw issue for now, its the only right thing to do.
i sincerely hope your father is okay......my thoughts go out to you and your family.
aa
Hi Simon:
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you can arrange to see him and I hope you do decide to invite your sisters to go with you.
If they decline, as AlanF says, you'll "pour the proverbial "hot coals" over their heads". Then the memory of their rejection will have to rest on their consciences and you can rest easy that you have done all you can to promote true family love and put it behind you.
They will be the ones showing the true JW "lack" of love contrary to the WTS crowing of promoting love and you will be the one proving your true feelings of love for your family.
I send my concern and love to you and Angharad.
Had Enough
"Never doubt that a small group of citizens can change the world.
Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has."...Margaret Mead
I'm so sorry Simon, our thoughts are with you. I think it'd be the best thing for your sis's to go with you!!!! You could at least invite them, they might suprise you.
Where does your dad live if you do't mind my asking?
Ven
"Injustice will continue until those who are not affected by it are as outraged as those who are."
I, too, am sorry to hear about your father, Simon.
I agree with LDH "I don't ever want to look back after they are gone and wish I had loved them differently". This includes the whole family. Hope you have a safe trip. You have done so much for people here and its great to see the outpouring of love to you in return. j2bf
(((simon and dad))) sorry! :(
(((Simon & Ang)))
Hoping for the best.
Kristen
Thanks all ... it really has cheered me up reading your posts.
My dad lives in Lethbridge which is about 2 hours south of Calgary and an hour or so from Waterton and the US border.
I think I'll call my sisters tomorrow and let them know I'm planning to go and are welcome to come along.
((((((((simon&Ang)))))))))))
I'm sorry to hear this. My wishes for a speedy recovery for dad.
I'm not sure what to suggest about the sisters.
I've gone thru similar experiences with mine. Family members have been very ill or died and they didnt let me know.
What hurt me the most was to open a newspaper or have a casual friend on the street give me encouragement or condolences on situations I hadn't been informed about!
Knowing their JW behavior from past experiences,knowing I can't change anyone but myself,nor can I ever expect them to behave in a decent and humane fashion,and in no way feeling bound by insane biblical doctrine that puts me in a position for emotional/psychological abuse,knowing I deserve to be treated with as much respect that THEy want from others......... I no longer bother or attempt to 'do the right thing' by them.(turn the other cheek,heap on hot coals upon their heads,and all the rest of that drivel).
I focus on the issue at hand,who the main player is in it,and take it from there.They and their idiotic beliefs and practices now take a backseat to the issue at hand(or crisis situation).I expend no more valuable energy on them.
Life is short and it feeds into their petty power games when any focus is put on them. Save the stress,focus solely on Dad.
Wishing you the best,Tina
Vive Bene
Spesso L'amore
Di Risata Molto!!!
Sorry to hear about your pops, Simon.
Make every effort to go (with or without your sisters). You won't regret it. Hope everything gets better. Keep us informed.
tj
So sorry Simon. I wish you all the best, as you go through this difficult time.
Marilyn (a.k.a. Mulan)
