by Newborn 20 Replies latest jw friends
...for now...
I'm not sure I can be his friend, but we agreed to watch a movie together again on Sunday. He apparently wants to have contact with me but it's up to me if I want it under these circumstances.
I think it's too soon to say after only two dates, but he's obviously scared to encourage me or promise me more than he can give at present.
But friendship can develop to something else can't it?? I know he likes me a great deal!
/Newborn
Just be his mate. Having a good guy friend is so cool. I miss mine ((Michael)) Guys are less complicated and you can have so much fun with them.
If he can't give you anything else other than friendship, you should accept that. Put the what ifs out of your mind.
Sounds like a good start, you have got control, bit like an auto/car, steady on the throttle girl
Keep us up to speed Newborn, I look forward to your posts.
fokyc
Thx fokyc
Yup... the #1 mistake girls make with me is they try to go full throttle after just a short while. That's a damn good way to scare a guy off.
Something a lot of geeky guys (and girls) have to learn is how to know the difference between attraction and obsession. Find a guy attractive, but don't obsess over him.
Keep things light and fun with some flirting mixed in there. Maybe fool around too... but don't go all gaga over him afterward. Just enjoy a shared experience.
Noted Elsewhere, but I'm not obsessed with him and I don't think I've gone full throttle after him (coz I've listened to your advice....one text this week to ask how he's doing should not scare a guy off...if so, he's not the man for me anyway...
.... okay I will be the voice from the other side....
He wants to be "friends"..........thats fine, guys can be quite good friends!
However if he starts moving into the territory of 'benefits'.........without proper statement of a romantic relationship and the man is either a coward (not desirable) or a cad (grrr even less desirable).
Dating can be rough.......
.......so where flavored lipgloss!
I think it's very hard for a man and woman to be "just friends" when one has feelings beyond that that aren't reciprocated. And I've been the one with the feelings. It ain't fun.
If you enjoy his company, than let it be just that, too people getting together to enjoy each others' company. Maybe he'll have a friend, or cousin or invite you to a party where you meet the one to ..umm..to do..well, what ever it is you want to do.
lisa
I kind of agree with what tristram is saying, if he liked you romantically I dont think he would have said that - the can we be friends line means either he wnts fringe benefits or he isnt attracted to you. just do what you want but like Tristram says its hard if you are expecting something tho be reciprocated and then it isnt. ask yourself do you want him as just a friend or are you hoping for more? if you are hoping for more then its possibly not a good idea as you just stand to get hurt, x x
