by recovering 51 Replies latest jw friends
Tell her to stay at a hotel. When she calls the hotel to make her reservation she should tell them to take down their lobby Christmas tree and decorations in anticipation of her arrival. They should not play Christmas music while she's there, and there should be no Christmas themed napkins on the restaurant tables.
If these requests are unreasonable for a paying customer, then they are more unreasonable for a freeloader.
W
Slap her upside the head with a 20lb Salmon..
Then ask her..
If she has any more requests..
.........................OUTLAW
This sounds like a lame attempt to find out if you are still in. Or a pathetic attempt to stop your festivities. A simple response is to invite them at another time after the holidays. Or you could be honest and say the tree stays, but you have a free will to do what you wish, but be prepared for a celebration. Good luck!
Tell her she is more than welcome to come
but must accept things as they are for what
they are.........................................................
There is absolutely no need for you you to
compromise your beliefs and positions. She
is the interloper, not you
When in Rome...........................
Hmmm, there are plenty of dubs and relatives I'd just tell to hit the road. But not my mom. Something about her giving birth, changing my diapers, and raising me the best she knew how, I just couldn't tell her to go to a motel, even if she had such a stupid JW request. My mom has treated me crappily sometimes, but not that terribly crappily.
If it was my mom, I'd do whatever I could to have her stay and make her comfortable. In this situation, I'd do everything in my power for mom to go away saying, "Damn, what a great kid I raised. The DFing junk is total sh!t. They were all so sweet and respectful even when I was a pain. Next time I come back, hopefully soon, I'll be way nicer." Keep your holiday plans. The family wasn't coming to your house anyway, right? Just let them know that you'll only be able to stay for a shorter time because of your houseguest. Perhaps some of them will be able to stop by your house briefly before or after to say "hi" and let mom know how happy, happy, happy, non-JWs are. Rent some movies to entertain Mom while you're out... but don't get her any porn or anything. That would be in poor taste.
Of course, if Mom got an attitude with "Jesus wasn't born on Dec. 25", I'd be ready to respond, "Jerusalem wasn't destroyed by Babylon in 607 BCE either, Mom."
I recommend renting "It's a Wonderful Life".
It's your bed, you've gotta make it and sleep in it.
Best of luck.
om
"My mom has treated me crappily sometimes, but not that terribly crappily."
You've been lucky Billy. I'm trying very hard to forget and forgive the crappy stuff my mother has done to me. Maybe I should write a book to exorcise those demons.
Josie,
Yeah, I don't get your mom. You can keep her.
I think that's probably why my suggestion is so different in this case. My mom's got some basic, average mom "quirks" that would be there with or without the JW baggage. But most of the conflict with the parents is increasingly the JW stuff as I try to fade.
Although Ma is stauchly JW, she is probably closest to my inactive sister... because my sister absolutely kills her with kindness. If, for whatever reason, my parents were to visit her on Xmas Day, I posted what I knew my sister would do. ... Well, she probably wouldn't throw in the line about 607, that's something I would do. ... But, my sister has her act together enough that they'd all have a wonderful time. And my sister would rent a few funny, clean movies.
Yeah, I wish I could gvie her away but staying away from her is gonna have to do. I've tried the killing with kindness stuff over and over again. I've been the daughter they can count on the take care of my disabled brother when my parents when away for a break and was repaid (multiple times) with in yelling and screaming when they go home (the last time was witnessed by my husband and my three young children). I've had them stay at my home, kicked my daughter out of her room and made it up for my parents' stay. I got repaid for that one by being accused of stealing a See's coffee mug. I could go on and on but this ain't the topic for it. Killing with kindness is cool but sometimes it doesn't work.
Josie
Wouldn't it be nice if some neighbors just happened to come by caroling that evening? After the last chorus of "Silent Night", you could invite them in to meet your mother and share some eggnog or spiced cider.
