LOL @ Lillith! I got me some new excuses!
Help me with a good comeback!
by lepermessiah 17 Replies latest jw friends
-
-
leavingwt
"I've been meaning to talk to you about this. I've decided that I'm going to take a break from the School for a while. I'll let you know when I'm ready to get back on the School. I really appreciate your understanding."
-
skeeter1
1. "I am afraid of crowds and public speaking. My mind is just racing. I just can't do the talks anymore. I will be taking a break from this responsibility."
2. "I need you to hold this in strict confidence. I had a testicle infection, and now it is very uncomfortable to stand up or walk for a long time. I will not be going out in field service or giving talks, and I will let you know when I can resume. Again, keep this in strict confidence. I don't want the sisters or brothers talking about it or looking at me strangely."
Skeeter
-
mouthy
Well I am sure you dont want to lose your wife ( well I am not sure)
but I think your answer was just right..You will have a visit .Just tell themyour going through a time of reflection ,needs a rest. How is the wife taking this????
Isnt is sad we do so much for those we love. But I am sorry to say, wives & hubbies
leave those they love when the CULT says they must... -
lepermessiah
Thanks to everyone! I needed a laugh and also a good way to handle this situation!
I would love to tell them where to go, but I actually really like the Elder who I spoke with. He is a good guy, but unfortunately a company man too.
Mouthy - I feel more and more optimistic with my wife all the time. She is very accepting of the situation. Our relationship is really better than it ever has been. She doesnt guilt me about anything anymore, and she was laughing about the talk situation. She knew I had no intention of giving one again anyway. The funny thing is that I used to be the School Overseer (TM) and used to give impromptu talks all the time. Those were usually my best ones!
She used to say I didnt communicate enough - once I was tired of being miserable and poured out my heart, we really started to improve our entire relationship. She was cool when I resigned as an elder, and she was glad to have me all to herself after many years of marriage and elder BS.
I think right now my wife is being "won over without saying a word"
I am supportive of her, but she knows I am clear on my position. I think she felt the same hurt and resentment the last year but isnt ready for the next step. I have mentioned on here before that a close member of the family was disfellowshipped by a kangaroo court, and she was livid. We never once broke contact with the family member. That was encouraging to me, since when we got married this same family member was DF'ed from a "previous offense" and she was very uncomfortable around her.
She doesnt really disagree with me on a ton of points- she sees the hypocrisy, she has seen that Big Brother doesnt give a - - - - about the "Brothers and Sisters" and she has seen plenty of BOZO elders. She is still intent on "Serving Jehovah", so I am working on her slowly.
A HEARTFELT thanks to all of you - this board has been a "godsend" since I feel like I can come on here and discuss things that I havent been able to talk about openly for my entire life......I am looking forward to the day of sharing more and more of my experiences so I can "Pay it Forward"
-
The Oracle
Am I sick? No, I feel great. How are you doing?
The Oracle
-
jwfacts
Just tell them you cannot cope anymore with the stress of public speaking and need to remove yourself from the school. I had a regular pioneer friend who was very devoted but never gave talks with that excuse.
-
mouthy
Mouthy - I feel more and more optimistic with my wife all the time.
That made my day/... Keep up the good work >>>>LOVE!!!!