How's your decade been?

by jookbeard 21 Replies latest jw friends

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  > How's your decade been?

  It's been about 10 years.
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  zagor

  For me it coincides with 10 years since of my exit, my last time I've attended meeting. So let me see. It has been a journey like no other. I've accomplished many of my dreams. First one was to start doing martial arts and if there is one thing that help me rebuild myself then that would be it. I've been doing it ever since. Next dream was to finally finish studies that I postponed for so long. Well I've managed to finish my graduate studies as well as my postgraduate. Always wanted to try running a business. Well had a taste of that as well. Wanted to travel the world more. Well I've been to so many places in last 10 years that I had to update my passport twice. Wanted to write a book. Well I'm about to publish one as we speak. But the biggest of all is something I always wanted to have and that is a daughter. Many people want to have sons but I wanted to have a girl and I've got one, my pride and joy.
  
  I didn't succeed in everything. I always wanted to have a happy family life. Well there I failed miserably. My marriage collapsed. In aftermath I've been through a number of different relationships, some better some worse, I guess was looking for a dream that was lost. But then one day I woke up and realized, heck I've already got everything I need, I don't need to force the dream into existence. And the funny thing happens when you go through that, your powers grow 1000-fold. It like one of those moments like when hydrogen bomb explodes and you see shock waves going in all directions. I stopped looking, its now other way around, people are finding me, I guess once you don't care anymore all pretences are gone and real you shows up, at least that's my theory. The truth is I'm happier than I ever was as I am. We travel a lot (me and my little girl) we have fun and the thing is, I don't want to force finding a replacement mom for my little girl in a way (that the wrong assumption to start with). But what I've realized in the end is if a perfect other half exist somewhere out-there then our paths will cross quite naturally without much thought; like Nickelback says 'it gotta be somebody' somebody real, if not well life is more than fulfilling enough as it is. So yeah, last 10 years have been a journey like no other.