jw grandparents miss my child

by looloo 12 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Scully

  My position with my JW parents is the same. The local congregation announced that Mr Scully had Disassociated™ himself (a bald-faced lie), and my JW dad drew a line in the sand and said Mr Scully was no longer welcome in their home. Of course, he fully expected that I would still visit with the children, but if my husband isn't welcome then we aren't going to allow them the opportunity to disrespect my husband and the father of my children that way. They can visit. They can call. But they don't. It's THEIR choice.

  I had to call them recently regarding Important Family Business™ (health matter), and they were FULLY aware of my health problem, being on sick leave from work, and surgery. They never bothered to check up on me in the past several months. Not a phone call, not a get-well card, nothing. And this is from the people who claim to show LOVE above and beyond what any Catholic, Protestant, Methodist, Muslim, Jew, Hindu, etc would show. My boss and even the staffing clerk (who I only talk to on the phone) showed more concern for me than they did. The JW rellies can bloody well screw themselves for all I care now.
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  Lady Lee

  OK so a year ago you made it plain that although they would no longer welcome their own son intot heiur homes they were more than welcome to visit.

  Since that time they have done nothing. Even his father who does not attend meetings has never picked up the phone.

  So somehow they found out your husband was sick and called your mother to ask for your address? Did you move in the last year?

  And yoiur mil made sure to tell your mother how much they both missed they miss your child, not you, not their son but your child.

  Be proud that your mother gave her an earful. Thank her a million times for letting your child know what a real grandparent is
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  Heaven

  looloo... I feel for you, however, don't forget that these are people who belong to a high mind-control cult. They will try to witness to their grandchildren. If you wish to re-establish contact, you will need to set very clear boundaries.

  I caution you because I know what Witnesses are like and have experienced the pain of being on the receiving end of their holier-than-thou, self-righteous crap. If something goes awry, they will withdraw and shun them, putting your children through the psychotic mill of JW mind-control tactics.

  One recent incident that occurred was when my Father, who hadn't seen my brother (his youngest son) in over 5 years, started going on about God and the JWs almost as soon as he saw my bro. My brother later asked me when we were alone together "Does he ever stop?" I simply replied "No."

  My Father has stated to me that he wants to see his grandchildren before he dies. My brother's phone number is pre-programmed into his phone. He knows which button to push. I am NOT going to facilitate this. I don't want to be the one to put the kids through the JW grinder. I have told my brother. If Dad truly wishes to see them, he will make the call. He has yet to do it.