I am so angry i want to smack someone around. God damn evil ex...I am ranting!

by Aussie Oz 21 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  Aussie Oz

  I am such a placid person. I will always turn the other cheek. I will always be the one to yeild. Yet tonight i am so angry. I seriously wish ill to my ex.

  i curse her. When we parted, i wished her all the happiness that the future could bring for her. Now i want nothing more than to see her rot in hell so to speak.

  I am sure that religion is the problem. I can simply not understand why she will not even under the cloud of family law court simply allow the children to spend every second weekend with me. 12 years i have been fighting her.

  I can only reason that she sees them missing each second sunday meeting as the work of satan. I am sure she sees it as a case of protecting the children from 'spiritual endagerment'

  i so want to destroy her faith in this crock of a religion now. I want her to feel awful about what she has done. My children have missed out on so much because of her, and i have too.

  i so badly want to get my kids out. I want her to lose them as a consequence of trying to keep them. I am so angry right now. How can she sleep at night. I wish she could not sleep at night.

  my mediation session went very bad today. Just when i thought she could take no more time away from me and the kids, she just tried. I feel like going on television, the news paper, something real dramatic to call attention to her evilness that i am sure is backed up by her elders.

  I hope i have calmed down by tomorrow.

  I always thought 'true christians' were the model of how a family breakdown would be handled. I obviously lived under a mushroom.

  i appologise for my rant. It is so unlike me to wish ill to another. i cant help it tonight. I feel so totally powerless. i feel like crying.

  oz
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  cyberjesus

  Im with you brother!
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  Hopscotch

  ((((Aussie)))) It's so sad to read of another casualty of the JW cult breaking up families. It is truly evil what they are doing to us.

  I too have thought about getting on to A Current Affair or Today tonight and having the shunning policy and the other practices, such as what your ex is doing with your children, exposed. I have been totally shunned by my entire family for just over a year now and I am sure there would be thousands of others like us in Australia who are feeling this enormous pain, anger, injustice and sadness who would love to see this made public.

  Hopefully you feel a bit better tomorrow. Hang in there and keep hoping that one day you get your kids back.

  All the best

  Hopscotch
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  iknowall558

  Hi AO. I split with my husband 6months ago, and I have custody of my children. We came out of the org. just over a year ago as a family but didnt stay together for vaious reasons. Things are very much up and down between us and for the most part strained. However.....for whatever reasons we split up, and Ive been angry....soooo angry, I still knew that my boys would still get to see their dad, and have a relationship with both of us. I know its not my right to keep my boys from seeing their dad, and in the long run, if I even tried to keep them separated from him, it would only result in hurting me.

  Do your kids have a say in this arrangement? I dont know what age they are, but are they able to express their feelings to their mother about wanting to have time with you? Does their opinion matter to her?

  I am asking this because how she treads now, may come back to bite her. I am the product of a broken home myself, and as an 8yr old, my mother managed to stop my dad seeing us for 14yrs. We were told it was because he wasnt interested in us and didnt want to see us. I believed this along with my brother and sister, but as a 19yr old girl, I found out this wasnt the case. My dad did everything he could to keep in contact, by sending letters and cards etc, but my mum threw them away or returned them without letting us know anything about it. Whenever he turned up at our door to see us, my mum would send him away. I hate to think how painful that was for my dad at the time, all the while not knowing that his 3 kids grew up hating him and thinking he was a waste of space.

  Now, however, all my mum has succeeded in doing is turning the tables on herself as far as how we feel about her. There is a lot of resentment and anger, and nothing but hatred from my brother. We dont have a proper relationship with her as a result and are in no way close to her. When my dad did eventually come to our door again, it was to tell us he was dying with cancer, and only then did my mum relent. But it was too late. He died 4 weeks later.

  If you could try and get her to look further down the line about 'how your kids may feel' about her preventing them spending necessary time with you, then she may re-think the arrangements. She needs to see this through their eyes. They will grow up! They will be able to reason this out for themselves when they look back and will no doubt feel cheated. Who will they blame? Is she prepared for her own relationship with her kids to be called into question? Could she handle their resentment?

  It seems to be about control. However she feels about you, its nothing to do with the kids. This is what my own mother failed to realise. In trying to hurt you, she is hurting your children in the process. I know this is a really tough situation for you, but hopefully it will change if your ex can see how it will benefit her kids to see their dad. Its their happiness and security that counts in all this. No-one wants their children to feel needy. Surely as a mother, she shouldn't need too much convincing to know that this is the case.
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  penny2

  Aussie, sorry you are going through this.

  Many teenagers brought up as JWs are leaving so do not lose hope. Just be there for your kids whenever you have the opportunity.

  penny
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  Black Sheep

  I want her to lose them as a consequence of trying to keep them.

  Let them get baptised.
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  Hortenzie

  Why "mediation"? Why 12 years? Did you try court?
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  Michelle365

  Hi! I'm in a very similar position with my ex. When we divorced the only way he would agree to every other weekend was if I agreed to let him take the girls to the meetings on MY Sundays. I agreed because at that point I just wanted to be divorced. NOW I am trying to keep the girls home on my Sundays and he won't agree. I filed a court action here to have the judge hear it and he called Child Protective Services on me. In fact, I'm meeting with them tonight.

  I want so bad to get my kids out as well but what I really want is the next 11 years to FLY by so that I don't have to deal with my loser asshole fuck face ex husband ever again.

  I really feel for you. I hope your situation works out soon!
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  Aussie Oz

  i have calmed down this morning... i will come back tonight and answer some questions

  thankyou everybody

  oz
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  cry

  Oh I feel your pain Aussie Oz. I am so glad that my kids were grown up before we separated, and before that time I was able to influence them about the org. I can sense a panic that you may lose them to the org forever, and I think that is what is making you so (jusifiably) angry. Could you possibly present a dossier to the court of the realities of the cult? I feel that this needs to be done on a 'grand' scale, for future court cases, so that the courts are more knowledgable about JW and don't just treat them as another religion. Good luck with it all.