aquagirl :Small kitchen.Im sitting at the table.They not only didnt speak to me,but they didnt even acknowledge that I was in the room.
What a bunch of ignorant, awkward individuals - Life only improves when they leave a room.
My Dad died
by aquagirl 53 Replies latest jw experiences
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cofty
I am sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like an honourable and intelligent man; a real man. They are increasingly rare in the WT
Well done for not being intimidated into playing their game.
Bill
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undercover
My condolences on your loss...
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HappyDad
I'm sorry for your loss. At least your father loved you and knew that you loved him. Screw the WTBS and their puppets.
HappyDad
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tootie
I'm sorry for your loss. I was DF'd when my mother was sick and dying. Most of the friends in my area were polite and respected the fact that I was my mothers sole care giver and that I was still human with human feelings even tho I was DF'd. Then on the other hand I can recall a few ASSES who came to the door to see my mom and just stared at me when i opened the door. No hello's is your mom up for visitors or anything. They just stared and then tried to just push the door open to move past me. I firmly pushed back and let them know my mother was asleep. They could see the rage in my face and the disgust. That ASS never showed up again. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I just don't believe in some things. What, just because you are DF, you are not supposed to have feelings? C'mon. They greet and console complete strangers who they do not know who may have lost someone. So why can't they show the same love and compassion to someone who is DF'd. It should not matter. All that should matter is that this is a fellow human that GOD has created and he/she is hurting and as a so called Christian, they should want to help.
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Invetigator74
My condolences to you and your mom. I've been contemplating how events will go when my parents pass on(there're up in age and haven't been doing to well). My father has been a elder for almost 40 years,so I'm expecting the same treament from their friends and family.
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aquagirl
Tootie,Thats EXACTLY what happened to me too! Im so glad to have you all on this forum.Wish I could have you all over for ice cream snadwiches!
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parakeet
I hate them.Really.Any Ideas?
My deepest condolences, aquagirl. I know exactly what you're going through (my JW dad died recently, and I had the "kitchen table" experience too).
I've heard it said that it's easier to get angry than to grieve. Try to ignore the jackasses and concentrate on your mom and yourself.
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dissed
Sorry for the passing of your father and hoping only the best now for your mom and you.
Do your best to ignore the JW's, they're actions show they really deserve each other. How not like JC they are.
My wife lost her mom last year and just like you, she was there every step of he way to support her, while the JW family side only came up with excuses why they couldn't be around.
It really hurt her mom that they cared so little for her. When they cancelled coming by with her on the last, because......... the CO was there and they didn't want to miss Saturday service, she drafted a letter, apologizing (sarcastically) for being so much trouble to them.
The whole family took notice of the JW's. Even the DF'd ones were apologizing for there actions saying it was only typical of the JW's and now for sure, they would NEVER go back to such an un-christian organization.
What makes, normally good people, become so selfish? My wife shares with you the same hatred for JWism and what it turns people into.
Sorry for the rant, but you touched on a nerve with your father passing and the JW treatment.
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choosing life
So sorry for the loss of your father. I know, when my father died, how difficult it was with other family members. It tends to bring out strong emotions in people. My father was never a witness, though, and I did not have to deal with the disrespect they showed you.
Do watch out for your mom and her financial interests. That's what your father would have wanted and I know you will. It must have been a comfort for your dad knowing you would be there for your mom after he was gone. I know my dad worried more about my mother's welfare before he died than anything else.
Give your mom my condolences.