It's official--I'm out. (page 3)

moshe

Good luck- it will be right as rain for you soon. Getting out is the ticket to a real life.

I imagine that , if you had called Bethel and asked to speak to a boni fide member of the faithful slave that they would have been unable to find anyone who would claim membership in that fictional club. How can you admit loyalty to a faithful slave that nobody has ever seen? I would like to have just one of the alleged F&DS come forward and admit at an assembly that he was responsible for all the great food that the WT has served up recently. I think I will have a better chance of seeing a UFO.

SAHARA

Wow Christopher, you seem to have a clear perspective on your own situation. It's sometimes easy to see others situations better than your own but that does not seem to be the case with you. I am not a JW and never have been but my wife is and was baptized 2 years ago. I didn't follow her into the Organization and your discription of how you think your wife sees you now has hit home which is what prompted me to send my little two cents. Hard to know you with this one post I've read but you really do seem to have a good perspective on matters. If I were a betting man, I'd put my money on you...

Out at Last!

It may have been some hard choices that you have made, but you can be assured that it will be worth it. It may not seem like it now, but you will. As for trying to get your wife out, the harder you try, the deeper she will get in to it. That is what she has been taught. That is what she does. She will have to come to that decision in her own time, in her own mind, just like you did. You will enjoy your freedom, just give it a chance.

whoknows

You had the courage to make the stand, be proud. I'm sorry your wife isn't with you on this. I can't imagine how difficult that must be. My husband and I were disfellowshipped 8 months ago for apostacy after being inactive for 2 yrs. We opted out of going to any judicial meetings, just told them to do what they were told to do. We are in our late 50's and had been in our whole lives. We lost all of our friends, but we at least we had each other and our kids.

What has helped me so much is to reach out to others who have been through this experience. Find other ex-jws in your area and connect with them, they are the only people that truly understand. Also, find something that you love to do and do it with a passion. I rediscovered life drawing and it has been a wonderful, satisfying outlet for me.

All of this pain gets better in time. It has taken awhile, but the other day I realized how happy and relaxed I feel now, and you will too. We are with you.

Truthexplorer

Hi sd-7,

I havent fully read through this thread and apologise for that. Though you find yourself in this predicament, you can still have a close relationship with God. Believe me, it is worth it. My heart goes out to you at this time. Dont lose faith in God. mere men may have put you in this position, but I can assure you, it was not God who has done this to you; for he is always close to those who are sincere in heart and obey his commands (not mens). May the spirit of truth lead you into a true relationship with Jehovah (YHWH). http://perimeno.ca/God's_Organization.htm

Philemon 1:3 (NKJV)- Grace to you and peace from God our father and the Lord Jesus Christ

TE

Black Sheep

Congratulations Christopher.

Just remember that, when these people behave badly towards you, it is not a consequence of your decision. It is a consequence of their decisions. You didn't ask them to behave badly. You didn't want them to behave badly. They choose to behave badly, as a consequence of their beliefs and their rules. You should point that out as often as you need to. Make sure your father knows that.

Enable your family to behave badly in front of your father as often as possible.

Cheers

Chris

dissed

Well, its official, you are offically free from them.

If you lived around my place, we could go out for a beer and talk.

So we will just have to down a figurative one or two.

dgp

I think I understand how you feel. You know you did the right thing for you, only you wish it weren't that hard on the wife that you love. It's clear that you do, or you wouldn't even bother to ponder whether you should have stayed there for her.

Once a person gets to know what is true and what is not, it's impossible to go back. That's how we are made. So, there's nothing wrong with your finding it impossible to go back. Honest people don't betray their principles.

You sound frustrated that you couldn't get her out. Man, do I understand that feeling, even though I'm not a JW.

I am no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses. But I am a person. I am a human being, a part of a world of human beings

Indeed. Welcome back into the world. Do not let them beat you. You're finally free.

LockedChaos

You have stayed true

to yourself

Without THAT you

would have nothing

Given time the static will clear......................

TastingFreedom

You are free man... It seems tough now, but time heals everything!

Welcome to Hell!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCLcwV-Iyfg

It's official--I'm out.

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